Senior Sex Tips from Joan Price
Here are some senior sex tips that you can put into action immediately to enhance your sexual pleasure now and through the decades ahead. These tips appeared in Joan’s monthly newsletter. Subscribe now for more helpful tips, news, and other conversations about senior sex delivered to your inbox.
What’s the one thing people remember most, comment on most, and ask me about most from the flurry of interviews* published lately? It’s the bell! The BELL! The bell is a playful and erotic ritual that my partner and I use before our sex dates to signal readiness. Here’s how we do it: We schedule…
I always recommend scheduling sex dates for the anticipatory arousal and because spontaneous sex doesn’t happen easily — if at all — at our age. But another part of our sexual response these days is that unless everything feels right at the time, sex doesn’t happen easily. Since we’re no longer driven by hormones, our…
Guest Tip from Shamus MacDuff My lover and I are both in our early 80s. When we have sex we take turns. Lying next to one another, our opening question is, “What hurts and what works today?” Next we ask, “How may I pleasure you?” On this day, my partner said her right leg hurt,…
If you don’t ask, the answer’s no. If you do ask, the answer still might be no — but it might be yes! We’re never too old or too young to advocate for our needs in a loving, inviting way. Learning to express what arouses and pleases us is key to satisfying sex. Even in…
Scheduling sex is sexy! When you plan it in advance, your most powerful sex organ — your brain! — has days to anticipate what you’ll do, how you’ll do it, the pleasure you’ll receive. Planning your erotic event in advance lights up your brain with fantasy, which sparks your body into arousal. Remember when you…
I hear from readers all the time who tell me they rarely or never feel desire for sex anymore. I also hear from readers who mourn the lack of sex in their relationships because their partners don’t feel desire anymore. Let me give you a different way to think about desire: Many of us do not experience…
For quicker, easier, and more satisfying arousal, figure out what time of day you feel most sexually responsive. Pay attention to how sexy you feel on waking, after coffee, or once you’ve gotten up and moved around a bit, or right after exercising or showering. You probably won’t feel aroused after a meal, when the…
If you were asked to define “real sex,” what would you answer? Take a moment to think about that. Does your definition of “real sex” describe the kind of sex that you’re having? The kind of sex that arouses you and brings you pleasure? The kind of sex that you really desire at this time…
Should you work out before sex? Increasing our blood flow with physical activity isn’t only good for the heart and muscles — it’s also good for sexual function and pleasure. One of the best things we can do to speed up arousal and orgasm is to exercise for half an hour before sex. You don’t…
One of the reasons that we have trouble getting aroused and reaching orgasm is that our blood flow isn’t racing to our genitals the way it used to. If we eat before having sex, we’re making this worse, because the blood flow is going to our digestive system instead of where we want it. The…
It’s a natural part of aging that erections are not as frequent, not as hard, and not as reliable as they used to be. But there’s a difference between undependable erections and erectile dysfunction (ED), meaning erections are not possible at all — not with masturbation, not first thing in the morning, not with a…
Senior sex isn’t just partner sex. Many of us don’t have partners, yet keeping our sexual selves vibrant and health is crucial for many reasons. It’s true that if we don’t use it, we lose it — and that’s true for any gender. When we have less hormonal rush to stay sexual, especially if we’re…
If you’ve ever enjoyed the feeling of a lover’s cold hands touching you, or if you’re looking for a new way to increase sensation, here’s an idea: Put your lubricant or waterproof sex toy in the refrigerator for a couple of hours before sex. The combination of a hot body and a cold object can…
A huge number of folks over 50 are seeking relationships of many types: monogamous partners, nonmonogamous partners, committed lovers, casual lovers, friends with benefits, occasional hook-ups, and so on. Many seniors are looking for love/sex/companionship after decades, sometimes half a century, of being in a relationship. They find themselves widowed or divorced, or their partner…
You’re dating a new person after being on your own. You feel attracted to this person and you’d like to be sexual, but you’re not sure you’re ready. How do you know? What if you try, then realize it isn’t time yet, or this is the wrong person? The advice below is from my book,…
The longer you’ve been together, the more likely that your dating life has fallen into a predictable pattern. You may not even have a “dating life” anymore, relying on a routine that may be comfortable, but no longer has sparks of excitement. I’m sure you’ve read advice from me and others: schedule date nights, go…
I’m interviewed frequently about tips for staying sexy as we age. Here are some sex and aging points I sent a reporter recently: Explore: As we age, our sexual needs and preferences may change. Where we like being touched, how we like being touched, even who we want to touch us may change. Let the…
Are you aware that I answer sex questions from readers over 60 in my monthly “Sex at Our Age” column at Senior Planet? I’ve been doing this since 2014, so I’ve answered a ton of questions. Often people email me with questions and topics that I’ve answered in this column. Here are some topics I covered…
If we waited until sex happened spontaneously, we might never have another orgasm. Now that we’re no longer ruled by our hormones, we can’t count on our sex drive to keep us sexually active. Schedule sex and an orgasm at least weekly. whether partnered or solo. There are myriad health benefits to the weekly orgasm,…
If you have difficulty with arousal and orgasm, that’s a good reason to have sex more often, not less. Here’s why: One of the primary reasons that we have trouble with arousal and orgasm is lack of blood flow to our genitals. The penis and the clitoris require blood flow for engorgement. The more you…
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