If One Position Doesn’t Work… by Shamus MacDuff
Guest Tip from Shamus MacDuff
My lover and I are both in our early 80s. When we have sex we take turns. Lying next to one another, our opening question is, “What hurts and what works today?” Next we ask, “How may I pleasure you?” On this day, my partner said her right leg hurt, so that constrained our positions. When my turn came to be pleasured I requested oral sex. But that presented a position problem. Our favorite way to facilitate fellatio is for me to lie on my back along the edge of the bed. My sweetheart then stands bent over me, and with her mouth, hand, lube, and a sex toy of choice brings me to ecstasy. But today her leg hurt, and standing over my prone body produced extra stress. Ever experimental, we made a wonderful discovery.
Instead of me lying down, she became the one who reclined. She stretched out on her side close to the bed’s edge. Her sore leg was well supported on a pillow. Once she was comfortable, I stood by her head. Adjusting the angle of my dangle to align with her eagerly awaiting mouth, I sighed as she set to work. Our new position magnified my pleasurable sensations. And watching her skillfully pleasure me produced exciting visual input that doubled my pleasure. We’ve agreed to add this new position to our ever evolving “old people sex” repertoire.
My point is that the inevitable aches and pains in our aging bodies don’t have to be a deterrent to sexual pleasure. They can be an invitation to creatively explore what does work, what does feel good. A challenge can lead to lovely surprises!