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Wicked Sensual Care simply® timeless sexual lubricant bottles

As we age, our natural lubrication decreases. Using a high-quality sexual lubricant increases arousal, pleasure and comfort. Lucky for us, Wicked Sensual Care has released  simply® timeless, a new line of lubricants and vaginal moisturizers that I personally love!

I’m thrilled and honored that Wicked Sensual Care selected me as the inaugural Ambassador for this new line that nourishes not only our genitals but our experience of sexual pleasure.

I’ve enjoyed Wicked Sensual Care’s lubricants for years, and simply® timeless is a step beyond any lubricant that I’ve experienced because it’s made specifically for our age group. These lubes are slick and feel so good. They put the glide back in partnered and solo play and genital touch. Plus they can be used daily as a vaginal moisturizer.

Introducing simply® timeless lubes:

What do we want from a lubricant at our age? We want slickness and glide that enhance sexual touch and penetration. We want healthy, hydrating ingredients that protect our sexual health and don’t irritate our delicate skin. Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless™ delivers all this and more.

There are so many confusing choices out there. How reassuring to know that simply® timeless™ takes care of our needs, contains only beneficial ingredients, and brings back the joy of friction.

 

Timeless Aqua Water-Based:

Smooth, hydrating, nourishing. Safe with all sex toys.

Timeless Hybrid + DHEA:

Combines water-based and silicone, slicker and longer-lasting than water-based alone. Safe with all sex toys. (Joan’s favorite.)

 Timeless Aqua Jelle Water-Based:

Thicker formula, especially good for penises and for anal sex. Safe with all sex toys. (Shamus MacDuff’s favorite.)

Timeless Silicone:

Slickest and longest-lasting. Not for use with silicone sex toys.

 

 

Silke Schwarzkopf of 2nd Act TV interviews me about lubricants, choosing the best one, and why simply® timeless excels.

View our discussion

 

 

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“Joan’s passion and expertise in senior sexuality are unparalleled. Her joining forces with simply® timeless™ not only signifies our commitment to inclusivity in sexual wellness but also reinforces our belief that pleasure is timeless. We’re eager to see her influence in making intimacy accessible and enjoyable for all ages.” – jessica drake, Brand Strategist for Wicked Sensual Care

 

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Welcome, New Readers!

 

 

Welcome! To introduce myself, I’m an author, speaker, sex educator, and advocate for ageless sexuality. In other words, I talk out loud about senior sex!

I’ve been writing and speaking about senior sex since I was a mere lass of 61 in 2005. Now 80 as I write this in April 2024, I am honored and overjoyed that my work is getting so much attention and bringing new readers who are eager for age-positive, sex-positive information and community. If you’re new to my work, I hope you’ll explore my books and webinars as well as all the free information on this website.

Thank you for joining me here. If you haven’t already done this, I invite you to subscribe to my free newsletter for senior sex news and views.

I know the amount of information on this site can be daunting. Here are some blog posts and other information that I hope you find helpful:

 

Popular past articles and posts:

 

  • How can I reach orgasm more easily? Although your stories are unique, the essential question is often the same. The practical advice here offers you several approaches you can take on your own, and when you need to consult a medical professional.

 

 

All about sex toys for seniors:

 

  • How to Choose a Vibrator.” I’m often asked, “What’s the best vibrator?” I’m happy to help, but the answer isn’t that easy. Here’s plenty of guidance to make the perfect choices for your own needs and pleasure.

 

  • Read my vibrator reviews from a senior perspective to help you choose. When you’ve scrolled to the bottom of the reviews that appear, click “older posts,” because I’ve been doing this for years! Thanks to Shamus MacDuff, we also have reviews of penis sex toys.

 

 

Read or Watch! 

You’ll find plenty of free information and helpful tips on my website and blog. When you’re ready to dig more deeply and learn how to enrich your sex life and relationships, my books and webinars are valuable resources.

All my books are available for purchase in the United States from my website. I’ll autograph them for you and, upon request, I’m happy to add a personalized inscription to you or your gift recipient.

 

“I always love Joan’s books because they are real, honest, inspirational, and audacious. Thank you, Joan Price, sister warrior, for joining me in building an army of orgasmic vibrating women (and men) to change society’s view of sexuality. The healing has begun.”

– Betty Dodson, PhD, author, sexologist, sex ed pioneer (1929-2020)

 

Webinars!

Great Sex without PenetrationMy educational webinars are 90-minute online classes on my most popular presentation topics. Watch, listen, learn, and create your action plan for  improving your own senior sex life. Receive 30% off by using coupon code 2+webinars-30%.

Recordings of these five webinars are available for viewing:

  • 7 Steps to Reclaiming Your Sexual Pleasure
  • Sex Toys for Seniors 
  • Great Sex without Penetration
  • 12 Steps to Sexy Aging – Starting Now! 
  • How the Heck Do I Date at This Age?

See descriptions of each webinar.

 

“My wife and I enjoyed your ‘Great Sex Without Penetration’ webinar very much. The real value of the presentation was the manner-of-fact way that you talk about sex without penetration. In particular, talking frankly about pursuing sexual pleasure. Your webinars have been the catalyst for several lengthy talks. Our conversations (especially the pillow-talk) and our play time together have simply been better.”

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“I wrote what I thought to be a compelling profile on OKCupid, but it attracted relatively little interest. ‘How the Heck Do I Date at This Age’ provided important tips and suggestions for revision. After I incorporated these insights the activity level on my profile increased markedly and resulted in numerous inquiries and several fun dates with good matches.” 

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“My wife and I thoroughly loved your informative webinar on sex toys for seniors. She took 3 pages of detailed notes. We appreciated having a reliable and knowledgeable resource with practical information and healthy safe sex toys. We especially like that you are endorsing only high quality sex toys. “

 

Talk to Me Privately

Do you have sexual concerns that you’d like to discuss with me privately? As a sex educator specializing in senior sexuality for 19 years, I am available for fee-based personal consultations via Zoom.

Please email me for information, describing the concerns or problems you’d like help with. I’ll respond with the procedure and fee. I’d love to help you.

 

From a recent consultation client: 

“Joan Price combines total professionalism with vast knowledge and a heart for helping people. I opened up easily, and unblinkingly she addressed my concerns with information accented with genuine empathy and concern. Joan analyzed our situation and provided guidance and suggestions that made total sense. At the end of our consultation, I felt elated – that feeling of optimism and hope based upon real knowledge of how to make my life better.”

 

 

Pulse Queen review: Yes, Your Rumbly Majesty!

It’s always an event when Hot Octopuss releases a new sex toy, and the Pulse Queen external vibrator is a winner! Rarely does a new sex toy charm me this thoroughly.

 

Why do I love the Pulse Queen?

First and foremost, I love it because it’s rumbly — deeply rumbly! — and it stays rumbly even on the highest of 9 speeds. It’s also super strong. I consider myself a power user, usually requiring the highest speed. But with the Pulse Queen, I don’t need to go past level 6 — it’s that powerful.

The experience is exquisite. The whole vulva reverberates with sensation, and I feel it deep in my body, not just surface level. The secret is the combination of rumble and oscillation, which is more intense than simple vibration. The technology is the same as the PulsePlate Technology™ in the Pulse penis toys which have delighted many a frenulum.

You can also enjoy seven patterns, some quite unusual. Sometimes I start with patterns for a tease, but when I’m ready to get serious about going to my happy place, steady pulsing gets me there. Your experience may vary, of course. Feel free to contribute your thoughts in the comments.

 

Ergonomic, oh yes

The Pulse Queen is also ergonomic for seniors in all the best ways:

  • Shaped for targeted clitoral stimulation and more. The “bulb” extends out for pinpointing, circling, or edging onto the clitoris; clamping between your thighs for all-over vulva stimulation; or pairing with a dildo for vaginal + clitoral delights. Explore, experiment!
  • Good for arthritic wrists. The handle is long, slim, and curved, making it easy to hold. Vibrations are only minimally transmitted though the handle.
  • Large, Raised Controls are easy to see (no need for glasses) or feel even with eyes closed.
  • Instruction booklet with large, clear diagrams illustrating everything you need to know — no words required.

Bonus points

  • Completely waterproof.
  • Made of body-safe silicone. Use with water-based lubricant only.
  • Black satin storage pouch.
  • Easy USB charging (see photo for insertion point for pin).

Not just for vulvas!

The Pulse Queen is marketed to vulva owners, but if you’re partnered with a penis owner, share the joy! As Shamus MacDuff discovered,

My partner told me of a new sex toy she wanted to try on herself. She said its name is Queen and it’s designed for vulvas so I assumed it would be for her pleasure alone. Was I ever wrong! After enjoying it on her own parts, she applied it to mine. First she ramped up the vibrations on my balls, then my shaft, and finally my frenulum. This produced pure ecstasy and a wonderful orgasm. The Queen works beautifully for penis owners too!

 

 

 

Purchase the Pulse Queen from Hot Octopuss — and take a look at their other fine products before you check out. Shamus MacDuff and I have  been reviewing their exceptional vibrators for penises and vulvas for years. Read our reviews (keep scrolling and click “older posts,” because there are many). They’re a terrific company, too, focused on sexual pleasure and health for all bodies.

 

 

Why don’t I review sex toys more often?

I’ve been reviewing sex toys from senior perspective for more than 14 years, and I admit I’ve become a little jaded. These days, I turn down more offers of review products than I accept. Even when I request one, a review isn’t guaranteed.  A new vibrator needs to offer an exceptional or novel experience, or I don’t want to spend your time and mine on a review. Know that if a product jumps all my hurdles and ends up with a rave review, my body, brain, and extensive experience have collaborated on that celebration!  Enjoy!

 

Come Together by Emily Nagoski

Come Together Book Cover

Emily Nagoski at Book Passage, Corte Madera, CA

Come Together: The Science (and Art) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

by Emily Nagoski, PhD

Reviewed by Mac Marshall

 

What is the key to passionate sex over the long term? Frequency? Orgasms? Novelty? Monogamy? Being a “skilled” lover?

Wrong, says Emily Nagoski, PhD in her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. Her goal is to give us the key to long-term satisfying sex. She writes,

Great sex in a long-term relationship is not about how much you desire sex or how often you have to do it. It’s not about what you do, in which position, with whom or where or in what clothes, even how many orgasms you have. It’s whether or not you like the sex you are having.

 

Pleasure Is the Measure” is a major theme of Come Together.  Pleasure is all about “how much you like the sex you’re having.” Most of the book teaches how to create access to pleasure with a long-term partner. Mutual admiration and trust are essential to this creative process.

Most of us seek both connection and pleasure in sexual relationships. But the excitement we feel when a relationship begins often fades as time goes by. Partners in committed relationships such as marriage frequently drift apart sexually. Typically, this is due to work pressures, the demands of family, and our physical changes as we age. Nagoski gives us helpful guidelines to revive and maintain connection and pleasure for the long haul.

Two chapters focus on what she calls “your emotional floorplan.” She bases this on the dual control model that she introduced in her best-known book, Come As You Are: turn-ons—the accelerator—and turn-offs—the brakes. The floorplan consists of seven emotional spaces that affect your sexuality: lust, care, play, rage, panic+grief, fear and seeking. She offers advice on how to navigate these emotional states as we construct a safe space with our partner for mutual sexual pleasure.

When people “come together” in partnerships Nagoski finds they seek:

  • connection,
  • shared pleasure,
  • being wanted by another,
  • freedom to feel full immersion in an erotic moment.

These are especially pertinent for relationships between seniors. Aging usually changes our needs for erotic connection. It is potentially empowering. For example, Nagoski observes:

[Aging provides] a context that encourages you to explore. Try new things. Shed all the preconceived ideas about how sex “should” work and experiment with all the ways it can and does work for you and your partners, in the bodies you have right now.

 

 Come Together centers on persons of any gender in long-term relationships. She shows us ways to create partnerships that sustain a strong sexual connection. The partnership characteristics she focuses on are:

  • they are friends
  • they prioritize sex
  • they pursue what’s genuinely true for them—what works in their unique relationship—rather than accepting other people’s opinions about how they’re supposed to do sex.

These characteristics flourish by avoiding “the desire imperative” and “the sex imperatives”:

  • “The desire imperative” is the notion that we should feel a “spark” of spontaneous craving for sexual intimacy when a relationship begins. And if we don’t continue to feel that sparky desire, we’ve failed. The desire imperative pooh-poohs planning or preparing for sex, and if we and our partner don’t just spontaneously want each other effortlessly, we must not want each other enough. Against this “mess of wrongheadedness,” Nagoski centers pleasure as the alternative measure of sexual well-being.
  • “The sex imperatives” that endanger lasting sexual connections are many, including these:
    • the coital imperative (penis-in-vagina sex)
    • the variety imperative (manual, oral, and anal play as well as PIV)
    • the performance imperative (enhancing your sexual skill set)
    • the monogamy imperative (you should only have one sexual relationship at a time)

Fixation on any or all of these can thwart success in building lasting sexual connections.

 

Change is an unavoidable given in life and relationships. Among the changes most of us encounter are illness, pain, and aging. Nagoski writes,

 The key to sustaining a strong sexual connection over the long term is to adapt—with confidence, joy, and calm, warm curiosity—to the changes brought by each season of our lives.

To join together in a successful sexually rewarding long-term partnership, Nagoski champions trust, admiration, confidence and joy. She gives these tips for achieving mutual lasting pleasure and connection:

  • Seek authenticity.
  • Plan for and embrace the changes that will always occur.
  • Find adaptations and adjustments that work for your unique situation.

Just as Nagoski’s Come as You Are is a ground-breaking book for women understanding their sexuality and achieving sexual pleasure, Come Together is the book you need to enrich the sexual joy in a long-term relationship. Read it — your sexual relationship will thank you!

 

 

Purchase Come Together at your local independent bookstore or order from Bookshop.org or Amazon.

 

 

Mac Marshall, PhD is a retired anthropology professor, researcher, and author who is delighted to explore sexuality studies at this time of his life.