We-Vibe Touch X and Tango X: updates that make a difference

My vulva and I first encountered the Touch and Tango external vibrators from We-Vibe in 2012. The Touch quickly became my favorite travel vibrator because the small size bestowed powerful vibrations. Over the years We-Vibe improved these two fine vibrators by making them more rumbly, more powerful, more ergonomic, easier to charge. The new Tango X and Touch X are the latest iterations of these pleasure tools, and they’re marvelous.

 

Touch X

So much to love about the Touch X! Despite its tiny size, the vibrations are strong, and the shape is ideal for a senior vulva that needs strong stimulation. You can use it several ways:

  • Cup the clitoris in the curved, shallow, bowl-like section.
  • Hold it upright with the pointy tip on the clitoris or the clitoral hood.
  • Cover the clitoris and labia with the Touch held lengthwise, pointy tip either at the entrance to the vagina or on the clitoral hood, your choice.
  • Give the clitoris extra stimulation during partner sex (penetrative or not).
  • What else? Let me know in the comments how you like to use it, if you’re willing to share.

Touch X (blue) + Touch (purple)

Reviewing the 2018 Touch, I was ecstatic about the improvements. Everything I liked then is even better now in 2021, I am thrilled anew by the power, comfort, and shape of the Touch X.

I don’t know if this will be an annoyance for you, but as you can tell if you enlarge the photos, the Touch X is a lint magnet. Just wash it before use as well as after. The feel of the matte silicone is worth it. Use plenty of water-based lubricant for optimal pleasure.

Tango X

Tango (white) and Tango X (red)

Use Tango X’s pointy tip, flat end, or the whole surface area for external stimulation however and wherever you want it: clitoris, vulva, nipples, penis, scrotum. Use it solo or with a partner during PIV or any other preferred sexual expression.

The redesigned Tango X sports a silicone handle which makes it easy to hold, even with lubed fingers.  The earlier plastic Tango models, while enjoyable, were super slippery to hold while using lubricant. If I didn’t hold it tightly, it might jump right out of my hand and send me scurrying to capture it in the bedsheets.

If I did hold it tightly, the vibrations transmitted directly to my hand, intensifying my wrist arthritis and making it problematic to hold for any length of time. Although I still feel the vibrations in my hand with Tango X, the intensity is dampened by the silicone layer, so it’s less bothersome. This is a huge improvement for those of us with arthritis.

 

Both Touch X and Tango X

Touch X controls

Both Tango X  and Touch X will delight you with 8 vibrational intensities and 7 patterns, and these can be combined. In other words, if you like the boop-boop-cha-cha-cha pattern, you can make the intensity subtle or  yowza or anything in between. Earlier models let you choose an intensity or a pattern, but not both.

Tango X controls

The controls have been redesigned and are much improved. Earlier models had one control button at the end. You pressed it for different intensities and patterns, cycling through the possibilities to find the right setting. The Tango X has raised buttons for “+” and “-” and a separate “~” button for patterns, making it much easier to find a preferred setting.

Charging is also easier than earlier models, which had a magnetic charger that slipped off easily, leaving your vibrator sitting there uncharged. The new versions also charge magnetically, but now the magnets won’t disengage until you pull them apart.

Touch X and Tango X are waterproof for bath time fun!

 

Which would you like best?

That’s a matter of personal preference, of course. The two vibrators behave similarly, but with an entirely different design and therefore a different feel. If you prefer pinpoint clitoral stimulation, you’ll like Tango X . If you like more overall vulva sensation (which stimulates the internal clitoris as well as the external nub), you’ll get that with Touch X. If you like varying pinpoint and overall, Touch X does both. If you want a toy that feels especially delightful to a penis, Tango X will get your vote.

 

Speaking of penises!

These toys are marketed for vulvas, but the design, power, and sensations will have your penis of choice shivering with pleasure. The Tango especially is just right for your penis owner’s solo or partnered play. For partnered play, turn it on and try some or all of these:

  • Roll the length of the Tango up, down, and around the consenting penis’s shaft.
  • Target the consenting frenulum with the flat end.
  • Use it on the scrotum during while the consenting penis is in your mouth

 

Try this:

For an extra zing, try chilling them first: see Refrigerator Sex.

 

Thank you, We-Vibe, for sending me these luscious new pleasure tools in return for an honest review.

“He Wants Me Naked When I Fling the Front Door Open” – Roz Warren reviews Ageless Erotica

7/19/21 update. I just replenished my supply of Ageless Erotica — I had sold out yet again! — and thought you would enjoy this hilarious review by humorist Roz Warren from March 2013. Yes, Ageless Erotica is still available, from my website (autographed and shipped immediately!) or Amazon, or you can ask your local bookseller to order it.  It makes a great gift for yourself or another sexy senior. — Joan

“He Wants Me Naked When I Fling the Front Door Open”

– Roz Warren reviews Ageless Erotica

If you want a glimpse into the erotic imaginations of sex writers who’ve been around the block a few times, pick up a copy of Ageless Erotica, a new collection of sex writing by, for, and about seniors.

Joan Price is on a mission to “talk out loud about senior sex.” She gives lectures. She holds workshops. And she writes books. Better than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty was followed by Naked At Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex. And now there’s Ageless Erotica, described as a “steamy assortment of erotic stories and memoir essays written for a mature audience.”

The book collects tales of seniors from all walks of life, gay and straight, vanilla and kinky, taking their clothes off and having a good time. I’ve never found erotica a turn-on, but I still got a kick out of reading it. I even learned a few things. (Masturbation clubs for women? Who knew?)

The stories in Ageless Erotica are a fascinating mix of the sensual, the medical and the humorous. The writing itself is all over the place. Laughingly abysmal. Unabashedly smutty. And, often, oddly moving.

Here’s a sampling of my favorite lines:

  • “My yoni was a ravenous hollow.”
  • “In a flash, he was butt-naked except for his socks.”
  • “I came in places I didn’t know I had.”
  • “My first blue cock. Would anything else on earth ever feel so good?”
  • “I played his instrument with my mouth as if it were a flute.”
  • “You are amazingly well constructed,” he said. “There’s evidence of too much sun on exposed areas, leaving a coarseness to the skin, but,” he added, stroking my ass, “the hidden parts are the silkiest I’ve ever felt.”
  • “Lifting her breasts away from her chest, he kissed his way down, until he found her sparse, gray pubic hair.”
  • “A lifetime of hard work let me afford trendy cashmere sweaters.”
  • “You have such beautiful, manly nipples, sweetheart.”
  • “I skipped teasing him with the knitted glove and went straight to the surgical one — in my actual size.”
  • “Filthy incoherence is always a positive sign at that point in our lovemaking.”
  • “He wants me naked when I fling the front door open.”
  • “It’s my boyish charm, as I’m told, that hangs around, unlike my hair.”
  • “I’ve included the inevitable butt plug.”
  • “A heavy date requires a slow day beforehand and a preparatory nap.”
  • “Off to the bedroom?” I asked with a wink.
  • “I clutch the sheets and yell, ‘Fuck, oh fuck, yes, yes, yes, do me, oh do me, thank you Sir, oh fuck, fuck, yes, yes, yes!’”
  • “We were naked before we even washed our vibrators.”
  • “I couldn’t remember if I had shaved the gray hairs from my lollipop just in case it was going to get licked.”
  • “Barry took my legs and spread them like a wishbone.”
  • “Tom Maynard, you’re as hard as a prize salami!”
  • “You can thank my hormone supplements. They do wonders for this kind of thing.”
  • “His first question when we met was, ‘Do you know how to gut a deer?’”
  • “He says, ‘I’m prepared,’ code for the Levitra pill he took a half hour ago.”
  • “My heart resumed a normal rhythm, all fears of another infarction vanished.”
  • “His tongue slid around my clit, which I’ve named Ethel, and over it, and too soon, I flooded with warmth.”

Intrigued? You can find Ageless Erotica on Joan’s website or at your local indy bookstore. If it’s not in stock, just give the salesperson a lascivious wink and ask him to order it for you. And Ethel.

 

 

He Wants Me Naked When I Fling the Front Door Open: Joan Price's 'Ageless Erotica'
Roz Warren

 

Roz Warren writes for The New York Times and The Funny Times. Her work
also appears in
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This review (c) Roz Warren first appeared at HumorTimes.com on March 30, 2013. It is reprinted here with Ms. Warren’s permission.

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NŌS Vibrating Cock Ring: Review by Shamus MacDuff

NOS

The NŌS is an outstanding new vibrating cock ring from Fun Factory. I have enjoyed it immensely during solo sex. Stretching the ring over a flaccid penis, NŌS quickly brings an erection when the motor is turned on. Moving it to different positions on the shaft yields various pleasing sensations.

My own favorite position is to point the motorized ends downward and inward so that they contact my scrotum. Revving up the power then produces wonderful vibrations all over my genitals. Rub a dab of water-based lube on the frenulum, and an orgasm will soon follow.

Generally, the controls on the center button work well. However, they are somewhat difficult to operate with lubed fingers. The solution is to start NŌS before slipping it onto your penis and before using lube. It’s then easier to change the settings with or without lube on one’s fingers.

The name NŌS derives from the Latin for “we/ours.” It also means “us” in Spanish and Portuguese. This name was chosen specifically to indicate that—in Fun Factory’s marketing lingo—it is “a cock ring for both of you.” “Both of you” clearly refers to a heterosexual couple who wish to “come together” and orgasm simultaneously during penis-in-vagina (PIV) intercourse.

NŌS is designed to facilitate this “coming together.” It fits around the penis and at the same time can hug the partner’s clitoris with its vibrating pincher-like tips. The expectation is that a couple can sync their orgasms. Fun Factory claims that “you’ll climax together harder than ever.”

The likelihood of that happening even occasionally strikes me as a tall order. Especially for us older folks, the chance of both people getting exactly the kind of stimulation they need at that same moment is unlikely and puts unreasonable pressure on the couple — and on the vibrator. Instead, experiment with the variety of ways to use the NŌS, see what feels good to each of you separately, then explore using it during PIV if you wish. Let your goal be pleasure, not a fantasy simultaneous orgasm.

To their credit, Fun Factory mentions several ways to use NŌS other than trying to produce orgasms for two people at the same time, such as wearing it on your hand as a finger vibe for your partner.

NŌS is — as Fun Factory hopes — also effective in partner sex, although not necessarily in the way they emphasize. In what my vulva owning partner and I affectionately call “old people sex,” we seldom engage in PIV, far preferring lots of stroking and oral and manual play. Two ways that we enjoy using it on me:

  • Oral: NŌS is a wonderful adjunct to fellatio. Installing NŌS at the base of my penis, also touching my scrotum, my partner slowly increases the vibration level as oral sex proceeds. She giggles when she feels the NŌS-generated vibrations of my penis transmit to her mouth. What do I feel? Bliss.
  • Manual: My partner holds NŌS in her hand and applies the vibrating double end to sensitive spots on my penis, scrotum, and nipples, which I find very stimulating!

NŌS is a great addition to anyone’s sex toy collection. Don’t expect it to magically provide the rare simultaneous orgasm. But do recognize it as an effective, versatile little sex toy. Some of its many qualities:

  • Made of body-safe silicone
  • magnetic charging buttons

    Waterproof

  • Quiet during use
  • Four speeds plus one pattern
  • Recharging is easy via the included handy magnetic charger.
  • Vibrations are remarkably strong for its small size
  • Ideal size for travel

 

I heartily recommend Fun Factory’s NŌS. You’ll be happy to own one!

 

Note from Shamus MacDuff’s clitoris-owning lover:

Volta

I love Fun Factory toys — especially the Volta and Limba Flex! — but this one did not work for me as a clitoris vibrator. The so-called clit extensions felt hard, and it was too easy to accidentally pinch myself when trying to manipulate it for my own pleasure. I loved using it on Shamus, but for myself, I’ll grab the Volta from my Fun Factory toy bag.

 

Caution: Cock rings are safe when used properly. Wear for no longer than 20 minutes at a time. If it hurts, remove it. Do not use if you have a blood/bleeding condition.

 

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— Shamus MacDuff, age 77, was oblivious to the delights of sex toys for penises until about three years ago. He’s been making up for lost time! Read his other posts here.

How Can I Reach Orgasm More Easily?

“It’s hard for me to reach orgasm,” women over 60 often write me. “What can I do?” Although your stories are unique, the essential question is often the same: “How can I reach orgasm more easily?”

Consult your doctor for a medical cause.

  • “I have a few illnesses and I’m on medications.”
  • “I’ve always been able to orgasm easily but for the past year and a half, I’ve been losing almost all sensation. I have not talked with my doctor about this.”

Many of you mention your medical conditions when you ask me for advice. You need to have this conversation with your doctor who knows your condition or your pharmacist who knows the sexual side effects of your medications. If your medical professional is dismissive of you or embarrassed that you’re asking about sex, you need a new one who is sex-positive and age-positive. This is essential for your quality of life! See “Talk to Your Doctor about Sex” for help starting this conversation.

 Expand your sexual repertoire.

  • “I have been unable to have orgasms because my husband is impotent.”

About 75 to 80 percent of women do not reach orgasm through intercourse, and I suspect that percentage is higher in our age group. We need clitoral stimulation before, during, or instead of intercourse. Your husband’s erectile dysfunction does not need to be an impediment to satisfying sex for both of you — there are many other ways to give and receive sexual pleasure. Watch my webinar, “Great Sex without Penetration.”

Great Sex without Penetration

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Use sex toys for faster arousal and orgasm.

  • “I would like to know how to reach an orgasm on my own, as my husband is not interested. I have a vibrator and sometimes it helps, but most often it doesn’t.”
  • “I have started to buy some sex toys for solo play, but I just cannot get an orgasm.”
  • “I prefer to use a device of some kind. But I don’t know what to look for.”

Read my advice above about consulting your doctor in case there’s a medical cause for your inability to reach orgasm. If not, it’s likely that you haven’t found the right vibrator to make orgasms happen for you. There are many different types, and each has a variety of shapes, sizes, and intensities. The vibrations can range from buzzy to rumbly and from mild to turbo-powered. 

Start with my blog post, “How to Choose a Vibrator.” Then, armed with your knowledge of what you’re looking for, read my reviews of specific vibrators, all from a senior perspective. (There are many reviews, so keep selecting “older posts” at the bottom of the page.) A faster way to see and learn about a selection of my favorites is to view my webinar, “Sex Toys for Seniors.”

If you’re partnered, communicate what feels good and what doesn’t.

  • “My husband is never very good at sex and consequently I suffer. I’m trying to find a way to achieve satisfaction.”

Does your husband refuse or “forget” to do what pleases you? Or does he not know, because you haven’t found a way to communicate what you need? We grew up during an era of embarrassment about sex, and for many of us, it’s still difficult to talk to a partner about our sexual needs. Work on asking for what feels good to you. My book, The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50, has an entire chapter on improving sex with a longtime partner, including how to find the right words for communicating your needs. 

If you’re solo, enjoy self-pleasuring often. 

  • “My husband died 4 years ago. I haven’t had any sexual activity in about 10 years. I think I just want solo sex. Could you help meSex After Grief please?”

I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief often numbs our natural need for sex, though for some, it has the opposite effect. (Learn more from Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved.) 

Be patient if you’re just getting back to sexual activity after a decade. Your body and brain became accustomed to doing without sex, and your drive and responsiveness receded. Some tips to improve this:

  1. Enjoy solo sex during the time of day you feel energetic and excitable. I call that your “tingle time.”
  2. Exercise first to increase blood flow to the genitals for faster arousal.
  3. Eat after sex, not before, so that the blood flow is not diverted to the digestive system.

A Senior’s Guide to Solo Sex,” one of my most popular articles for Senior Planet (with 137 comments!), has more suggestions. The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

Your take-away tips:

  • Consult your doctor for a medical cause.
  • Expand your sexual repertoire.
  • Use sex toys for faster arousal and orgasm.
  • If partnered, communicate what feels good and what doesn’t.
  • If solo, enjoy self-pleasuring often.
  • The more sexually active you are — partnered or solo — the easier it becomes to reach orgasms. 

(This article first appeared on Senior Planet as “Ask Joan: Easier Orgasms” on July 20, 2020.)