Older Woman, Younger Men
Recently Judy, age 62, who attended my Ask Me, I’ll Tell You workshop, emailed me a description of her special “niche of passion:”
Here’s what Judy has to say:
I’m interested in the special challenges of over 60 women with under 25 men. This has been my preference for many years.
Contrary to expectations there seems to be a wealth of available men for me. Perhaps it is the “sex only for the pure joy of it” idea; I have offers pretty much daily.
I don’t pay but treat the young men with respect and a great deal of motherly (grandmotherly!) concern. Our relationships have lots of laughs and energy. ever see the movie Harold and Maude?
Currently I live with 4 young men under 25. All are affectionate, and watch each other to see if I have a favorite. (I tell them I love them all equally.)
Then there are numerous lovers from outside the house who visit. This is as close to heaven as I can get. It would be fun to meet another grandma who has found this niche of passion.
Are there other women out there who love men much younger? Share your stories, please!
Paul1960, thank you for your lovely and heartfelt comment. I appreciate it, and I'm sure so do my other readers age 60+! I hope you'll continue to comment on posts that interest you. — Joan
Joan,
I am on the right track here am I not. I do feel sex is something that truly gets better with age. And I think you have all of the right ideas about taking things slow and building what I think of as anticipation towards a sexual relationship such as when you talk about hours of foreplay and sex play before hand. Plus a 60+ woman has all of the wonderful wisdom and experience of a lifetime to offer a relationship. I do not mean to be negative about younger women but older women seem to have more of an element of what I think of as being real. That makes it for me all the more exciting for me to get to know her and to see what we have in common in terms of interests or otherwise. When it comes to sex an 60+ woman like yourself brings so much insight, experience, empathy, and even sweet gentleness. That is what makes me love and adore her and makes me feel so excited to be in a relationship with her of the kind you and Robert had. Yes Joan I do truly believe sex does get better with age. I hope I have preached to the choir here.
Ah, I'm guessing Judy is the landlady who is "flexible" about how the rent gets paid …. Good thinking!
I'm sure she is the envy of MANY older women!
– Dave
i am marrying a 50yr-old girl and im 27. and its great.
Wow, that’s quite a love story — 55 and 18, and you’re getting married! I hope you’ll keep visiting and updating us on your story. If you want to be interviewed for my next book, please email me.
— Joan
Hey… ok.. I admit, I’m a GILF (what young guys call a ''grandma I'd like to ****''); & if that’s what you choose to call us.
I’m not exceptionally rich, but I do ok. I’m 55 and have a guy that’s 18. I am a grandmother of five, with two grown/adult children older than my beau.
How did I get him? He started persuing me over a year and a half ago, when he was barely 17. Honestly, I pushed him away time after time. I just wasn't interested. I never paid much mind or attention to him until recently (about six months ago). When I finally did turn my eye his way, WOW! did we hit it off like a rocket!
No. I don't dress exceptionally sexy, I don't consider myself exceptionally beautiful. But, I am consistently myself, faults and all.
He says he was attracted mainly to my maturity and intellect. Frankly, I believe he is telling the truth because like I said, I never paid mind to him for a long, long time, so there was nothing physical at all during that time frame; nor did I ever knowingly give him a reason to persue me.
Now, as it goes, we’re gettin’ married in 3 weeks. Believe it or not, we have tons of things in common (a lot more than you would ever think). But we have enough in difference that it makes our relationship lovingly challenging and quite steamy. Bucking the system of (and on the edge of) social taboo is what we have done. We are a unique couple and we love it!
Bottomline? His persistence paid off. Ultimately, he loves me, I love him and that’s all there is to it. You can’t split the hairs of soulmates, no matter how hard you may try.
Age isn’t a factor when true love is the equalizer.
At this point and time, I couldn’t be happier, and have never been happier to be with someone in my entire life.
Judy,
I am middle-aged and I too, like younger men, but I cannot seem to get anywhere.
How do you do it? Are you beautiful? Do you dress “sexy”? Where do you meet these men? Also, these men are propositioning you, not the other way around.
Signed,
Wants to know