“People are living longer, healthier lives so why shouldn’t their sex lives keep on going? And why are we so afraid to imagine that they do?” writes Tristan Taormino in “Knockin’ Vintage Boots: Golden girls get their groove on past 60,” which appeared May 22, 2007 in the Village Voice.
I’m quoted in this section:
…. “At what age do you plan to retire your genitals?” That’s what Joan Price asks those who consider sexy seniors “icky.” Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk About Sex After Sixty, says, “The main misconception is that seniors are either asexual, pathetic, or ludicrous because they’re still interested in sex.” She was so frustrated with the lack of positive images and information, she wrote a book about what she calls “ageless sexuality.” Price tackles a myriad of subjects from serious issues like dealing with painful intercourse to spicy stories of threesomes.
Price’s book and accompanying blog, [Betty] Dodson’s work, and [Deirdre] Fishel’s documentary have all kick-started a much needed dialogue. They not only prove that seniors do in fact have fulfilling sex lives, they can also empower older folks to get busy.
However, there is a serious lack of resources for the complex sexual issues facing people over 60, including illness and disability, hormonal changes, a decrease in libido and arousal, and the effect of common medications, not too mention coping with major changes to the vagina post-menopause, including dryness, atrophy, and a thinning of the tissue that can cause tearing, discomfort, and pain.
Taormino quotes Betty Dodson as saying, “Sex is such an important part of intimacy and bonding, of touching and feeling connected with a partner, of accepting our bodies and the wonderful physicality of which we’re capable.” Exactly!
Do you agree?