Age 69+ wanted to discuss sexuality in documentary film

Recently, I had the pleasure of being interviewed by TV documentary film makers Lauren Buongiovanni Hunt, Linda Duvoisin, and their crew about my older-age sexuality views, experiences, and attitudes.

It was a fabulous experience! The film project, titled “69 and Up! Sex and Intimacy in the Golden Years,” is intended to reveal the sexual wants and desires of people age 69 and over, presenting us positively and joyfully.

Would you like to be involved? Here is the call for volunteer participants from Lauren, both written and via video, explaining what she and Linda are looking for. Again, the experience was totally positive for me — respectful, fun, absolutely non-sleazy. I hope you’ll want to participate, too.

From Lauren Buongiovanni Hunt:

 I’m making a documentary film that explores sexuality, intimacy and older adulthood. I have a belief that my desires and drive for intimacy and sex will remain present throughout my lifetime While they may change (and/or even grow!), they will remain present and intact as I grow older. It seems to me that as the generation of the ‘sexual revolution’ enters older adulthood our culture needs to undergo an attitudinal revolution about how we view older people and their sexuality. After all, more and more of us will grow to live in older adulthood. Yet, one does not need to look very far to see how our society values youth and eschews the possibilities of the beauty of sensuality in older adults.

 The film, 69 and Up! Sex and Intimacy in the Golden Years, will interview sex experts, doctors, sociological professionals as well as older adults who are beautiful examples of what the possibilities can be. The purpose of the film is to portray that the science and the practice demonstrates that sexuality and intimacy in the latter part of life is alive and well.

 I am seeking volunteers who are willing to share their story – straight, gay, married, dating, widowed, etc. – as long as you are willing to be open for the purpose of sharing your experiences for the purpose of illuminating the challenges, successes and joys of sex and intimacy in older adulthood. I am seeking both men and women.
Email me at for more information and/or questions about volunteering.

60+ and Wild? Steve Harvey Show wants your story!

The Steve Harvey Show contacted me for help with this casting call. If you fit what they’re looking for, please respond directly to Lande Yoosuf, contact info below. I’d love it if you’d also post a comment here — this could become an interesting discussion! — Joan


Do you have an active and sexy lifestyle? Do you have adult children who are constantly nagging you because they see you as wild, and wish you would “act your age”? Do you believe that you ARE acting your age: having fun, expressing yourself fully and shamelessly, enjoying an ageless adventure?

Your lifestyle doesn’t have to be kinky — though it may be, as long as it’s SFDTV (“safe for daytime television”) — but your kids find your activities embarrassing. You can be married or single, and you’re open about your sexuality and sense of adventure.

Contact Lande Yoosuf to share your story! Please respond with this info:

  • – Full Name 
  • – Age 
  • – Location 
  • – Phone Number 
  • – E-mail 
  • – Professional Title / Occupation 
  • – 3 or more photos and at least one full length photo 
  • – An explanation of your story 

Lande Yoosuf
Associate Producer
The Steve Harvey Show

Casting Call: Extreme Cougar Wives

I received this email and casting call from Rachel Macy, Casting Producer, STILETTO Television, and decided to pass it along, in case this is just right for you. This is not an endorsement — just information. — Joan

We are casting nationwide for new episodes of TLC’s hit new show Extreme Cougar Wives!…We are looking for fun, flirty, unashamed and bold personalities… This docu-series helps to end a double standard and follows women in their prime who are dating/in a relationship with much younger men.  We want outgoing (loud and proud) personalities, amazing energy, couples that are happily in love or singles looking for love! It would be great to find women who date men 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years younger than them and are proud of it. Ultimately, we want to hear their love story and know their journey!


Stiletto Television, the award winning production company that
brought you TLC’s smash hit special Extreme Cougar Wives, is now
searching nationwide for more fabulous cougars to star in this
captivating docu-series.

Are you a woman over 50 with an outgoing personality and amazing
energy who is happily in love (or looking for love) with a much
younger man?
Do you find that men your age just can’t keep up with your
lifestyle, level of maturity or libido?
If you like to date men 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years younger than you
and are proud of it, we want to know your love story!

If you or someone you know is an extreme cougar, lives in the US,
we want to hear from you by February 22nd! Please send your
contact information, brief bio and a recent photo to:
Rachel Macy, Casting Producer, or phone
310-957-5757 ext 263. 

The press release for the show is available here. 

View several videos here.


Senior Sex Ed on TV: Kudos to Parks and Recreation

I rarely recommend any TV show’s treatment of senior sex, but the “Sex Education” episode of Parks and Recreation 10/18/12 had me laughing and applauding.

 Leslie (Amy Poehler) has learned about an STD outbreak among seniors. As she explains it,

Lots of old people have chlamydia. Seniors in Pawnee have a lot of time on their hands, and what they’re doing with that time is going at it hard, old-people style. A lot of them haven’t had proper sex education, and as a result, STDs are having a field day. It’s amazing what a few old guys can do with a little bit of charm and a lot of crabs.

They role play “gross” questions that the seniors might ask, which are pretty tame compared to what the seniors, who look to be maybe 75 to 90, really ask them. For example, when Leslie prepares to demonstrate putting a condom on a banana, one man asks, “That’s all fine and good, but what if the banana is soft and mushy and doglegs sharply to the left?”

Yes, the show makes fun of elders. (“Can everyone hear me okay?” “No!” shouts the audience in unison.) When Leslie asks, “”Does anyone know what we risk when have unprotected sex?” she hears these responses:

  •  “Heart attacks!” 
  • “Falling in love!” 
  • “Your partner dies on top of you!” 

But what I love is how hilariously the show makes fun of those who think that seniors either aren’t or shouldn’t be sexually active. The seniors in the sex ed audience are having sex and they accept their sexuality as an ordinary part of life. This is despite the town’s “abstinence only” law that prohibits any other kind of sex education (sound familiar?) — whatever the age of the participants.

The “morality watchdogs” of the Family Stability Foundation (who obviously have their own secrets in the, er, closet) attempt to enforce this law. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that they don’t succeed.

The “Sex Education” episode of Parks and Recreation is funny and right on target. You can watch the full episode here. Enjoy!