…I seek a mature, ageless, energetic woman for undeniable chemistry…physical, emotional, and intellectual chemistry …
You are better today than you have ever been, more alive, more free, more wise and more sensual, still with unquenched desires. You are most likely over 60, completely ageless in mind and spirit, smart, well-preserved and fun.
Are you are bursting with energy, but have difficulty finding a man your age who can match your liveliness? Do you want someone whom with whom you can be your true self, free and at ease, knowing you are accepted and desired no matter your age, with someone who accepts you as you are who sees your age and youthfulness and wisdom as assets to be treasured? … Can you envision yourself in a passionate and intense love affair with a smart, youthful man who sees you as the beautiful and amazing woman you have become, who values your wisdom and life experience and zest and passion, who can harness your deep sensuality and match your desire, with no insecurities, welcoming you to realize your true Goddess nature? If so, I would love to know you.
You will feel and welcome my desire for you, for the woman you are today, not the woman you were 20 or 30 years ago. We both know how much better you are now, smarter, wiser, more accepting and free, more sensual and appreciative, more full of zest and life ….
“So how is that working for you?” I had to ask him, explaining that my inquiry was less from prurient interest than from wanting to inform those of you who keep asking me about how to meet older women. Is a dating site like OK Cupid a good place?
“desire4mature” listed for me the many categories of women who would not respond to his ad, or who would not interest him, leaving a precious few who became his friends and then lovers. He said in an email,
It is a very rare woman that I end up talking to for a longer periods of time and then meeting and becoming lovers. Sexual health is very important too, so again, it’s rare to get to that point for me, but I have, and have gloriously been rewarded to have known or know a small handful of truly amazing, incredible, sensual and beautifully sexual women, all 20 to 33 years older than me. I love and cherish them and always will.
My questions to my readers:
If you’re the older woman, could you see yourself getting involved with a man like this one? What sort of screening test would you use to decide whether he was sincere and a good potential bed partner?
If you’re the younger man, have you tried using an online dating site to find an older women who might be a good match for you?
If you’re a man of our generation, what do you offer women our age that a younger man does not?
I welcome your comments.
Update 10/7/2013: I just received yet another email from a young man — this one is 25 — who wants to date “a granny.” (I understand that in other countries, this isn’t an offensive term — though it makes me cringe.) His request for my advice had no caps, and many words were abbreviated (“frm,” “lyk,” “sm1,” “whoz,” “plz,” for example). If he won’t even take the time to communicate with me correctly, why would I think he has something to offer a woman my age?
Young men — it’s not that we’re not savvy enough to read your text-speak — we can read it. But approaching us this way does not make you appealing or interesting. (For more info and a bit of ranting about this, please see this 2009 post.)
As always, I welcome your candid and thoughtful comments.*
* However, as always, do not try to hijack my readers to a toy store, escort service, porn site, or any site I haven’t endorsed. Those comments are deleted before seeing the light of day. I wish the spammers would stop making me cranky.