I’m under a shelter-in-place order, as are most of you by now. Even before the order, I had started limiting outings and interactions because I’m in a high-risk group. I’m 76, and although I’m usually a powerhouse of energy, I do manage chronic asthma. Twice in the past 5 years, simple respiratory illnesses developed into pneumonia, one requiring hospitalization. To make life even more stressful, I’ve been recovering from injuries after a fall that put me on crutches and a knee scooter for a month.

I’m sure many of you have similar stories.

I Know We’re All Stressed, Maybe This Will Help. I’m used to working from home, so social distancing isn’t a huge change for me. If you’re new to this and can’t figure out what how to fill your time and reduce your stress, here are some tips that I hope you’ll find helpful:

  1. Choose one thing you’ve wished for time to do, something that would bring you a sense of pleasure and satisfaction. Maybe it’s as simple as making time to read a novel, or as complex as writing your memoir. Make this something that will bring you joy to do.
  2. Choose one important task that needs to be done that you can do at home. You know, a chore on that to-do list that’s been hanging over you for weeks, months, years? You might not enjoy doing it, but you will enjoy having done it.
  3. Build exercise into your day, every day, even if it’s power walking your house to the beat of a favorite song. Exercise is important for our physical and mental health. It’s a natural anti-depressant. For 300 ideas (yep,I counted them) for exercising wherever you are, get my 2003 book, The Anytime, Anywhere Exercise Book:  300+ quick and easy exercises you can do whenever you want!
  4. Reach out to loved ones. No, we can’t visit and hug, but we can interact via phone, Skype, Zoom, Facetime. Make a plan to contact at least one special person each day. Ask for what you need emotionally. Use the time to get closer to people in the wonderful technological ways available to us, rather than feeling distanced and isolated.

Divide your time among these four. Brag when something’s done! You’ll feel better and less isolated if you’re intentionally doing something enjoyable or important or both, rather than just passing time.

Here’s the main point: We know at our age that every hour we have matters. We can make this time meaningful. It’s our best gift to ourselves.

“But Joan, what about sex?” you’re asking. OK, let’s add sex:

  • Give yourself an orgasm at your tingle time.
  • Try something new during solo sex or partnered sex.
  • Order a new sex toy or lubricant. Please scroll down the right-hand side of my blog for retailers who support my senior sex educational mission. Let’s support them, too, especially now.
  • Learn something new about sex and aging. This blog is a fine start. Consider my books, film, and webinars, too. As long as the post offices remain open, I can ship your book and film orders (U.S. only), and my webinars are digital, so you can view them whatever your location or situation.

Please feel free to add your comments and tips.


4 Comments

  1. CHRISTOPHER CORMIER on March 23, 2020 at 5:14 pm

    Great advice! I am following all of your tips and have even added one more. I am trying to learn something new. Thank you for everything you do!

  2. Jesse Foster on March 19, 2020 at 8:22 am

    Great Advice but Sometimes It Is About Sex . Sometimes You Have To keep The peace .

  3. David G Edward on March 18, 2020 at 3:37 pm

    Great advice and comments…..as usual.
    Thanks Joan, and look after yourself.

    • Kate Walter on March 18, 2020 at 5:33 pm

      Great advice. Thank you. I’m definitely picking up my guitar again. Glad I got it restrung last fall. Now if only I can tune it

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