Casting Call: Extreme Cougar Wives

I received this email and casting call from Rachel Macy, Casting Producer, STILETTO Television, and decided to pass it along, in case this is just right for you. This is not an endorsement — just information. — Joan

We are casting nationwide for new episodes of TLC’s hit new show Extreme Cougar Wives!…We are looking for fun, flirty, unashamed and bold personalities… This docu-series helps to end a double standard and follows women in their prime who are dating/in a relationship with much younger men.  We want outgoing (loud and proud) personalities, amazing energy, couples that are happily in love or singles looking for love! It would be great to find women who date men 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years younger than them and are proud of it. Ultimately, we want to hear their love story and know their journey!


Stiletto Television, the award winning production company that
brought you TLC’s smash hit special Extreme Cougar Wives, is now
searching nationwide for more fabulous cougars to star in this
captivating docu-series.

Are you a woman over 50 with an outgoing personality and amazing
energy who is happily in love (or looking for love) with a much
younger man?
Do you find that men your age just can’t keep up with your
lifestyle, level of maturity or libido?
If you like to date men 20, 30, 40 or even 50 years younger than you
and are proud of it, we want to know your love story!

If you or someone you know is an extreme cougar, lives in the US,
we want to hear from you by February 22nd! Please send your
contact information, brief bio and a recent photo to:
Rachel Macy, Casting Producer, or phone
310-957-5757 ext 263. 

The press release for the show is available here. 

View several videos here.


Senior Sex Ed on TV: Kudos to Parks and Recreation

I rarely recommend any TV show’s treatment of senior sex, but the “Sex Education” episode of Parks and Recreation 10/18/12 had me laughing and applauding.

 Leslie (Amy Poehler) has learned about an STD outbreak among seniors. As she explains it,

Lots of old people have chlamydia. Seniors in Pawnee have a lot of time on their hands, and what they’re doing with that time is going at it hard, old-people style. A lot of them haven’t had proper sex education, and as a result, STDs are having a field day. It’s amazing what a few old guys can do with a little bit of charm and a lot of crabs.

They role play “gross” questions that the seniors might ask, which are pretty tame compared to what the seniors, who look to be maybe 75 to 90, really ask them. For example, when Leslie prepares to demonstrate putting a condom on a banana, one man asks, “That’s all fine and good, but what if the banana is soft and mushy and doglegs sharply to the left?”

Yes, the show makes fun of elders. (“Can everyone hear me okay?” “No!” shouts the audience in unison.) When Leslie asks, “”Does anyone know what we risk when have unprotected sex?” she hears these responses:

  •  “Heart attacks!” 
  • “Falling in love!” 
  • “Your partner dies on top of you!” 

But what I love is how hilariously the show makes fun of those who think that seniors either aren’t or shouldn’t be sexually active. The seniors in the sex ed audience are having sex and they accept their sexuality as an ordinary part of life. This is despite the town’s “abstinence only” law that prohibits any other kind of sex education (sound familiar?) — whatever the age of the participants.

The “morality watchdogs” of the Family Stability Foundation (who obviously have their own secrets in the, er, closet) attempt to enforce this law. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that they don’t succeed.

The “Sex Education” episode of Parks and Recreation is funny and right on target. You can watch the full episode here. Enjoy!

Attn: Dynamic New Yorkers Age 50+

UPDATE: Thank you to the eleven lively people who partipated in my NYC workshop, Ask Me, I’ll Tell You: Women and Men Talk Out Loud about Sex and Aging, talking candidly about your sexuality in front of strangers, a TV crew, and cameras. You were wonderful!

Excerpts from this workshop will be part of a TV documentary on sexuality in the U.S. airing on a major cable network in October or November. Once the air date is set, I’ll be able to tell you the details — right now I can’t reveal more.

We had such a good time with the abbreviated version of this workshop that the participants requested that I return to NYC to give the full workshop. I’d love to! If you want to be on my NYC mailing list for news of a workshop there (without cameras or a TV crew!), please email me with “NYC workshop info” in the subject line, and tell me a bit about yourself.

We’re also seeking sponsors who can provide a venue and/or cover my travel costs. Let’s make this happen!

If you live in the Santa Rosa/ Marin/ San Francisco area of California, I offer this workshop frequently here. Email me with “local workshop info” in the subject line. I’m about to schedule another one in Santa Rosa in the next couple of months.

If you’re landing on this post for the first time, here’s the background — the original 8/17/12 post about the first NYC workshop event:

Are you:

  • In or near New York City?
  • Age 50+?
  • Energetic, articulate, communicative?
  • Interested in enriching your knowledge of senior sexuality?
  • Willing to share your views about sexual topics candidly — on camera?
  • Available Thursday morning, August 23?

If so, Please email me immediately! You might be invited to appear on a national cable network television special with me on the topic of senior sex! Here’s the scoop:

On Thursday morning, Aug. 23 (venue TBD in New York City), I’m doing a one-hour, abbreviated version of my workshop, Ask Me, I’ll Tell You: Women and Men Talk Out Loud about Sex and Aging (description below). The workshop will be free to you and filmed — you’ll be on camera the whole time. Excerpts will appear as one segment of a national cable television special about senior sex.

If you are enthusiastic about speaking candidly about
senior sex as part of a workshop discussion, which I’ll facilitate,
please email me
right away! If you and a partner want to participate, please submit
separate emails, but indicate that you are partnered with [name].
Singles are encouraged to participate.

Please include this information in your email:

  • Name
  • Phone number
  • Email address
  • Age
  • 2 or 3 burning questions* you would like to hear men discuss about senior sex
  • 2 or 3 burning questions* you would like to hear women discuss about senior sex

Workshop description:

Ask Me, I’ll Tell You: Women and Men Talk Out Loud about Sex and Aging . We’re talking about senior sex—the challenges, the
pleasures, and all the questions we didn’t think we could ask out loud.
What arouses us now, when the old ways aren’t working like they used to?
What do we wish we understood and could communicate better about our
changing bodies and responses? How do we spice up our sexual
repertoire? What if we don’t have a partner? What if we don’t feel
desire for sex any more? In this eye opening, interactive, mixed-gender
workshop, you’ll get to voice your questions and get answers. Joan
Price, author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex
After Sixty
and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex,
guides the conversation and discovery, and offers tips for putting the
zest back into later-life sexuality. For couples and singles, men and

(*In the full-length version of this workshop, we arrive together at the “burning questions” we want to hear our own and the other gender discuss, but since we’re limited to one hour of this workshop, I’m speeding it along by collecting your questions ahead of time.)

This show will air in the last quarter of this year — more details to come. I’m really excited about this opportunity to share what I do on a national television special, and I hope you’ll be part of it! I’ll turn over the information you send me to the producer, who has the final word on attendees — space is limited and we won’t be able to accommodate everyone.

Senior Strip with Centrum Silver

I don’t know how I missed this commercial and the ensuing brouhaha in 2007, but I’m on it now! Watch this Centrum Silver commericial before you read on:

So how did you respond to this? I admit I laughed, I enjoyed it. But as a self-professed advocate for ageless sexuality, was I supposed to find it offensive? Hmmmm.

Does it make fun of old people who have sexual thoughts/actions, or does it shout the message that we’re never too old to be sexually adventuresome (even if only in our own mind)? Are the old people the brunt of the joke, or is it the shocked staffer in the doorway? Clearly part of the message is that  we see ourselves as younger than others see us, and we do! Not to this extreme, of course — that’s what makes the video funny.

[AsideThis past week I tried on clothes in front of a well-lighted, 3-way mirror in an upscale store and faced my body in underwear with dismay. I preferred the view ten pounds ago — and before my cataract surgery! And lest you draw my attention to my “Older women wear lingerie” post, thank you, but let’s just say that parts have been shifting, plumping, and loosening since then. Since I hate the stereotype that wrinkles can’t be sexy and we’re supposed to be a certain size and shape, I’m owning my body as it is now. Just had to tell you that, though.]

Ronni Bennett

Back to the commercial — I went looking for commentary on it from seniors, and found that elderblogger Ronni Bennett posted about this video in 2007. (If you don’t follow Ronni’s blog, Time Goes By: what it’s really like to get older, you should.) She quotes Chuck Nyren, who writes a blog,
Advertising to Baby Boomers, and said in his post about this commerical that the elders in the last scene should have been hot looking Boomers.

Chuck Nyren

Although I agree with Nyren that the ad would have appealed more to Boomers that way, isn’t that propagating the stereotype that the age for feeling sexy stops at 61? What do you think?