Eroscillator: buzzing solo or with a partner
Eroscillator attachments
Toys Are Us: My Personal Vibrator History
I bought my first vibrator in my thirties at Macy’s: a “personal care” product for, uh, “massage.” The instructions said nothing about using it for sex, but, wink-wink, I knew.
For decades, I collected vibrators, trying to find the model that would do it for me. I don’t remember if I started with the Wahl (which I named Wally), with its many intriguing attachments, or the Hitachi M
agic Wand (named Big Buzzy), but after buying the first one, I quickly bought another.
Over the next few years, I filled three nightstand drawers with vibrators of all sorts, both plug-in and battery-operated. I had vibrators in the shape of a penis, egg, wand, rabbit, and probably more I’m forgetting. I must have tried every type of vibrator on the planet, not because I love variety but because it was difficult to find the one for me. I’ve always preferred the strength of plug-in rather than battery-operated sex toys, and now that I’m older, I need the most intensity possible. A “light touch” is pleasant, but if my goal is orgasm, it’s got to be strong.
A decade ago, I cleaned out my drawers, threw out the thirty-year-old attachments that had deteriorated into flakes of plastic, discarded the toys I didn’t really like, and kept only my favorites. I hated to throw this large collection in the trash, but I figured neither Goodwill nor my local consignment store would accept used sex toys, and they weren’t old enough to donate to Good Vibrations antique vibrator museum.
I decided I didn’t need all these extra toys anymore because I’ve discovered my favorite: the Eroscillator, an oscillating plug-in designed for clitoral stimulation. It feels great—intense and focused, with its smooth, rotating motion—and it is easy to hold, easy to aim, and easy to adjust intensity during the act. A twelve-foot-long cord makes it work in hotel rooms, where the outlet might be half a wall away. Best of all, the long, slim handle and small vibrating part make it simple and comfortable to use with a partner. It’s expensive—$120 to almost $200*, depending on attachments—but worth every penny.
Because the Eroscillator is endorsed by Dr. Ruth Westheimer and her picture is on the box, I named mine “Dr. Ruth.”
Electrifying Sex: Using Sex Toys with a Partner
At some point after Robert and I became sexual, I asked if he’d be open to using a vibrator with me. His response was a definitive, absolute, “No! I don’t want a machine in the middle of our lovemaking!” He had had no experience with what he called “appliances,” and they didn’t fit with his feelings about lovemaking as natural and spiritual. When I showed him my vibrator, it seemed like a noisy, mechanical thing.
Robert would make me come with his fingers before or after intercourse—I couldn’t come during intercourse at all. My sensations just weren’t strong enough anymore to bring me over the top unless I had really strong, direct, and focused clitoral stimulation. He kept asking if there was anything he could do during intercourse so that I could come that way, and my answer was always, “Only if we use a vibrator at the same time.”
Finally, he agreed to try it. The ease of giving me an orgasm and the intensity of my pleasure won him over. We’ve used it ever since, and it’s part of our love play. Now Robert will say in the middle of sex, “Let’s get my buddy, Dr. Ruth!”
– from Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty (2006)
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* 2024 update: These were 2006 prices. Now $200 and up (worth it!), depending on the attachments you buy. Make sure your selection includes the “soft finger”!
Note: I kept this excerpt in present tense although some crucial things have changed:
1. I lost Robert to cancer in 2008, but I still love remembering precious moments like these, and I couldn’t bear to shift the ending of this excerpt to past tense.
2. I now have several favorite vibrators. The Eroscillator is still in the top four for solo sex and top two for partner sex!
Hello Joan
My man ( DAVE 85 ) asked me to respond to your post re vibrators.
In the early days of our marriage, I realised that I was very , very slow to achieve orgasm. I had never masturbated and was a virgin before our marriage, 23 for him ( also a virgin) and me at 21. I had had a few orgasms while ‘making out’ when we were dating, but didn’t recognize them as such at the time. Not much ‘sex ed’ back in the 50s.
After about 8 years of marriage, and the arrival of 3 children, our sex life was less than satisfying and very disappointing , and for D, very frustrating. He enjoyed foreplay, oral, aural, and tactile , me less so.
I often faked orgasm, to please him and, to get it over with. Whenever D wanted to talk about our love making, I would clam up. My sense of inadequacy and feeling that I was ‘ less of a woman ‘ coupled with my strict Catholic upbringing got in the way. D did a lot of reading about sexuality…this was in the 70’s….the age of awakening, and bought what would become, our first ‘ massage ‘ toy.
When he showed it to me, I was incensed and my feelings of failure as a ‘real ‘ woman came tumbling out. I was angry, and I was hurt! My lovely man talked and talked and finally, I agreed that we would try this white coloured Prelude massager. The first time we used it, I was apprehensive but while D held me, stroked my body and whispered to me, I had a slow feeling of overpowering warmth and engorgement and had a wonderful explosion which took us both by surprise. It was bliss !
That Prelude was rewired a number of times and eventually replaced with an orange ‘ Prelude 2 ‘.
I soon accepted the fact that I required intense and prolonged stimulation and we incorporated the use of our Prelude into our more frequent love making sessions. One of the side benefits is that I would occasionally have an orgasm with oral or PIV only.
Through the years D has brought me to a local sex toy shop and we have purchased a number of We-Vibe toys D has read about. Most recently the Octopus Pulse.
A recent addition was a prize you sent him for being runner up in your ‘Sex Toy Sightings ‘ contest. The We-Vibe Melt we received was the introduction to ‘ Air Pleasure ‘ toys and what a joy it is. My only complaint, if you can call it that, is that it brings me to orgasm too quickly. My, how the tables have turned !
In summary, my favourite and ‘ go to toy ‘ is the Prelude. Cumbersome as it is, and re-wired with a longer cord many times now, it is our toy of choice. The We-Vibe Melt is used more for prolonged foreplay and ‘edging’, something we love doing on our Sunday morning dates. Both in our mid 80’s now, and married 63 years, we are very thankful.
So, the Prelude comes first, me second, Melt third and D last……pun intended.
All the best to you Joan.
L…aka Anne
What are your top four? Or links to your reviews of your top four? I’m hoping that a little research will save me some time and money!!
I’m asked this so often that I wrote a blog post about why I can’t tell you what *you* would like best: https://joanprice.com/2020/04/how-to-choose-a-vibrator.html. I do recommend viewing my Sex Toys for Seniors webinar, where I show you about a dozen of my favorites: https://joanprice.com/webinars.
I've been a fan of the eroscillator for many happy years. I want to know if the attachments for the original eroscillator will fit the eroscillator 2. They look the same?
I believe they'll work fine, but you could check with the company to be sure.