4/22/19 update from Joan: Our film shoot was last week, and it was amazing! I’ll write up a separate blog post describing the experience soon. The crew and cast were marvelous, especially our director, the extraordinary jessica drake. Experience of a lifetime! I’ll keep you posted about release date and how to order. (The best way to make sure you don’t miss out is to subscribe to my newsletter here.)
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
and All-Sex Roles
(February 13, 2019) – Adult
superstar, sex educator and exclusive Wicked Pictures contract star jessica drake is teaming up with acclaimed author and expert on senior sex Joan Price for the newest installment of jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex. The award-winning instructional series is now in pre-production and casting for several roles.
while solo. With expert advice and unique insights from drake and Price, this new installment of the acclaimed series will feature people in explicit demonstrations and sex scenes illustrating sex tips and techniques to enhance the sexual experience, partnered or solo.
workshops around the world. She is the writer, producer, and director of the video series “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” which has received critical acclaim from industry stalwarts AVN, XBIZ, Fleshbot.com, and others, as well as mainstream outlets like The Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Refinery29 and many others.
sexpert,” “the beautiful face of senior sex,” and—her favorite—”wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan has been writing and speaking
about senior sex since 2005. Her books include:
- Sex afterGrief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Loss of Your Beloved, Joan’s newest book, coming August 2019.
- The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life, her most comprehensive senior sex book.
- Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, winner of Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from the American Society of Journalists and Authors and 2012 Book Award from American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.
- Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty, Joan’s spicy memoir celebrating the joys of older-age sexuality.
- Ageless Erotica, a steamy senior sex anthology which Joan conceived and edited.
addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, which is presented in the spirit of inclusion and explored with a distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor. The series has earned recognition from AVN, XBIZ, and The Feminist Porn Awards, and is available on DVD, VOD and multiple streamingplatforms.
presenting seminars and workshops at expos, retail outlets, and colleges like USC, UCLA, and Chapman University – where she speaks to curious adults desiring to learn more about sex, romance, and communication. jessica also continues to be a paramount voice for sex workers across the world – she’s spoken at the Let Us Survive March, a rally for sex worker rights, and is a continuing sponsor of one of the first summits for sex workers, CatalystCon.
Guide to Wicked Sex: Three-time AVN Best Actress winner and sexual wellness authority jessica drake brings erotic topics to life through intimate demonstrations performed by some of today’s hottest adult stars in her “Guide to Wicked Sex” series. The stimulating sequences are sensual, provocative and enlivened by an informative optional audio commentary. In each volume of “jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex,” writer, producer, director, and host jessica drake addresses a different aspect of human sexuality, ranging from Fellatio and Anal to Basic Positions and Female Masturbation. jessica explores each topic with the same distinct blend of knowledge, experience, and good humor, which led Dee Dennis, the founder of sexuality conference CatalystCon, to praise her as “an amazing sex educator and speaker, who represents a new direction and is breaking new ground” in the sexual self-help genre. The series’ volume on Fellatio earned AVN’s 2012 Best Educational Release trophy, “Anal” was named XBIZ’s 2012 Specialty Release of the Year, “Anal Sex for Men” received AVN’s 2014 Best Educational Release award, and “Plus Size” earned XBIZ’s 2015 Specialty Release of the Year. For more information, visit GuideToWickedSex.com,
It’s always a joy when Fun Factory comes out with a new vibrator, and this time, it’s the Manta vibrating stroker for penises. I invited Shamus MacDuff to experiment with the Manta, and he sent this report:
MANTA from Fun Factory
The latest addition to Fun Factory’s delightful menagerie is a new sex toy for penises called Manta. Manta joins other Fun Factory “animals” such as Patchy Paul (a caterpillar) and Volta (a squid) in their growing sex toy “zoo.”
Manta is so named because the “grippers” of the vibrating stroker resemble the “horns” of a Manta Ray. These grippers (aka flexible wings) have six intensity levels and six different rhythms to create a range of exciting stimulation. Manta can be used successfully in solo sex or in partnered fun, and either way it’s a winner.
Solo, I especially enjoy moving it slowly up and down my penile shaft with lube before eventually concentrating its vibrations on the frenulum and the ridge at the back of the penile head. Kazoom! This activity reminds me of watching real life manta rays rubbing up against coral heads back in my scuba diving days, an action to which they returned over and over because it obviously felt good.
|Photo by Sebastian Pena Lambarri on Unsplash|
My female sex partner used Manta to great advantage on my shaft, bringing me to throes of ecstasy as she combined Manta stroking with her own hand and mouth, backing off, and then bringing me up again. Joyous fun, leaving my entire body tingling.
Given that this wonderful “boy toy” works well solo or partnered, it will make an especially apt Valentine’s gift as that day for lovers draws near. Manta provides a ray of joy (pun intended) for penis pleasure. It’s wonderful to find another sex toy focused on the penis to accompany the many that are designed for the clitoris, vulva, vagina, and anus.
Shamus MacDuff, age 75, was oblivious to the delights of sex toys for penises until about a year and a half ago. He’s been making up for lost time! Read his other posts here.
Note from Shamus’s sex partner: I really enjoy giving my partner vibrator-assisted pleasure (as he does with me). Neither arthritis nor position fatigue stops the action when a toy like the Manta intensifies the sensation!
Note from Joan: Many thanks to Fun Factory for sending me their sex toys in return for an honest review. Take a look at all their products — you’ll smile at the shapes and colors, and I’m sure you’ll find one (or more) that’s just right for you. And here’s a discount code for you:
My readers get 10% off all Fun Factory products with the code JOANPRICE. Go to Fun Factory using this link or any of the links in this post. Explore. Choose. Use the coupon code JOANPRICE at the bottom of your shopping cart, before clicking checkout. Fun Factory is so eager to introduce you to the pleasures of their products that you can continue to use this discount code on all future orders until 4/14/2020. (Please note that this coupon cannot be combined with other offers.)
Sex is complicated enough when it’s easy — but when we’re in grief, it’s especially mysterious and confusing. How do we nurture ourselves as sexual beings when we’re grieving the death of a partner? Why does taking care of ourselves sexually even matter when we’d rather hide under the covers and wail? What do we do with those sexual feelings that arise despite our misery? How do we know when it’s time to open ourselves to a new sexual relationship, whether it’s a friend with benefits or a new love connection?
stumbles along the way), my attempts to dip my toes in the dating pool, and what I learned.
Additionally, I could use your experiences and perspective in these areas:
2/19/19 update: I edited this list again, deleting those topics that I no longer need and adding a few new ones. If you’d like to share your personal experiences or tips, even just a couple of sentences, I’d love to hear from you. I’ll use short excerpts from your sex-after-grief journeys along with my own, plus quotes from professionals. Choose one of these topics and email me with “Sex after Grief” as your subject header if you’d like to contribute. **DEADLINE 2/25/19!**
- Your first partnered sex after/during grief, what it meant to you then, what it means to you now
- How did you know when you were ready for partnered sex with a new person?
- Feelings of guilt/betrayal of deceased partner when you wanted sex or had sex with a new person
- Sex after grief when you’re in a non-traditional relationship style: poly, kink, etc.
- Adventuresome sex after partner’s death
- Getting sexual in stages
- Advice about sex and grief from your grief counselor/ therapist/ coach/ surrogate
- Dating while grieving
- Your first time with a new partner — how did it go?
- Communicating with a new (or potential) sex partner about desires, boundaries, uncertainty, safer sex
- Solo sex during grief
- What happened next? How you moved forward. Reflections on how far you’ve come.
- Advice for newly bereaved
- Unexpected joy with new sexual partner
- Cautionary tales, warnings while we’re vulnerable
People of all genders, all sexual orientations, all relationship styles are invited to contribute. Notice that I haven’t said that you need to be age 50+. Sex after Grief will be primarily, but not exclusively, for our 50 to 80+ age group. Whether you’re older or younger than 50 and you struggled with death, bereavement, and regaining your sexuality, your story is welcome.
Thank you so much for getting involved and helping other people who share the journey we never wanted to take. I hope to hear from you.
Thank you to all of you who emailed me since I first posted this 11/25/2018. Thanks to you, this book will be filled with diverse experiences and perspectives.
June 2019 update: the book is written! Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved comes out August 2019! Learn more here.
Note from Joan: Shamus MacDuff is the pseudonym of a 75-year-old retired university professor and author. Other than his name, he promises that everything he says about himself is true. His first guest post, “Great Sex Without Penetration: A Man’s View,” attracted so many readers and such positive response that when he offers additional posts, I quickly agree.
In the locker room at my gym, I overheard a 40-something guy complain to his buddy that his girlfriend insisted on using “a damned vibrator” that, in his view, kept “getting in the way of real sex.” I was tempted to interrupt and share a different story. I assert that more guys need to learn about the joys of sex toys, especially vibrators.
While a few vibrators are targeted specifically to provide stimulus and response to penises, a great many more kinds of sex toys exist. Most of these are designed especially (but not exclusively!) for clitorises and vaginas. It’s time to examine what these toys have to offer to penis owners, and to help guys like the fellow at my gym break out of the “penile colony” and begin to enjoy the myriad pleasures of a variety of sex toys.
For starters, most women cannot orgasm through penetrative vaginal sex alone, requiring arousal and stimulation of the clitoris. Vibrators are designed to provide exactly that stimulation, and it’s little wonder that women find them so desirable. If your partner loves her vibrator, that does not mean she doesn’t also love your touch. Rather, it indicates that she’s found the perfect combination of a partner and a vibrator to bring her to orgasm. Guys are not in competition with vibrators—they are our accomplices in giving joy and pleasure to our partners, a fact that the fellow in my gym had yet to understand. But there’s much more to this than meets the eye (or the clitoris), so let’s explore further.
It happens that vibrators work wonderfully on our male parts, too. During partner sex (of whatever form it takes), encourage your partner to apply her vibrator to your frenulum, your perineum, your nipples, or any other “turn on” spots that give you a happy buzz. A happy buzz is just what vibrators provide, often in a variety of patterns and speeds. You are sure to find several that will bring you to ecstasy more quickly than you thought possible. Once you do, you’ll then be vying with your partner for who gets “first dibs” on using the vibrator of choice. The fun and games during your partnered sex will be greatly enhanced for you both!
My partner introduced me to several delightful vibrators, and now these toys have also become a great addition to my solo sex practice. While the ones designed specifically for penises are very effective, I have found that many others, produced originally with vulvas in mind, are hugely satisfying during masturbation. Playing with vibrators almost certainly will convince you that they are our friends—true orgasm enhancement tools for guys as well as gals.
That conversation I overheard at my gym saddens me, because the speaker was clearly a prisoner of “the penile colony”—a believer that the only real sex is penis-in-vagina (PIV), with an unfortunate primary focus on his own pleasure rather than on increasing hers. Vibrators offer fun and innovative ways to break out of that unhappy mental prison, allowing us guys to recognize and experience the full panoply of delights that sex toys can provide to penises as well as clitorises. Give ‘em a try—you won’t be disappointed!
[Read other posts by Shamus MacDuff here.]