Favorite Sex Toys 2024
In November 2021, Shamus MacDuff and I posted our “Favorite Sex Toys for Seniors: Gift Guide for Our Lovers and Ourselves.” These remarkable products are still among our all-time favorites. Over the past four years, new notables have tickled our fancy, and we reach for them time after time. The pleasure tools below have earned elevation to our favorites list.
“Read more” links go to our past reviews of each product. In the reviews you’ll find links to our personally vetted retailers who support sexual pleasure, health, and education at our age and through the years ahead. Enjoy
Joan’s new favorites
Clitoral suction vibrators shaped like roses are trendy, and you’ll find several brands and models. They are not at all the same. My clear favorite is Inya the Rose, which captivated my heart and other body parts with just the right amount of suction and vibration and a super comfortable design (unlike another model I tried that seemed to stab and chew). Read more.
The new Pulse Queen from Hot Octopuss is rumbly, rumbly, rumbly, and magnificently strong! If you find buzzy vibes more annoying than stimulating, your clitoris will love the deep, rolling, rumbly oscillations of this one. Designed for external use in many different body positions. Read more.
Shamus’s new favorites
In 2023 Hot Octopuss celebrated the 10th anniversary of its superb penis toy, the Pulse, with a strikingly beautiful iridescent new model, the Pulse Essential Dragon Eye. Think of this as “Pulse the Magic Dragon.” Revving the powerful Pulse Plate technology to 3950 rpm this dragon will frolic with your member, hard or flaccid. It is fully waterproof for bathing play, easy to use, and hands-free should you wish. It’s my go-to solo pleasure toy. Read more.
Body Kisses by Gender X is a marvelous vibrating suction massager that performs penis magic. Slip the head of your cock into the toy’s mouth and activate the suction mode. Then start the vibrations against your frenulum while the toy dangles against your scrotum. Adjust the three speeds and four patterns to find your personal orgasmic combination. It’s the thingamabob that does the job! Read more.
Top Travel Toys
These toys aren’t new. They delighted us but somehow didn’t make it into our favorites list in previous years. This year they asserted themselves as our top travel toys:
Joan: At home or on the go, the We-Vibe Melt gives full-sized pleasure in a small, lightweight, ergonomic toy. Vibrating pulses of air feel to me like gentle, rhythmic sucking building to powerful, rhythmic sucking over 12 intensity levels. All this power in a toy that weighs just a few ounces. Read more.
Shamus: The new generation Tango X from We-Vibe is the perfect travel toy for penis owners. It is lightweight, fully waterproof, recharges quickly, and packs a lot of power into its small bullet-like shape. It is also relatively quiet. I turn it on and take it straight to the frenulum and penile ridge, raising the power in increments. It provides your member with a full workout rapidly resulting in an orgasm, with or without lube. With this toy it only takes one to Tango! Read more.
Don’t forget the lube
Without lubricant, sex toys would be just skin friction. Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless line was created for the needs our age group. Remember to choose water-based or hybrid for use with silicone toys. Our favorites for use with sex toys: Hybrid for vulva and vagina and Jelle for penis. Read more.
Wicked Sensual Care simply® timeless
As we age, our natural lubrication decreases. Using a high-quality sexual lubricant increases arousal, pleasure and comfort. Lucky for us, Wicked Sensual Care has released simply® timeless, a new line of lubricants and vaginal moisturizers that I personally love!
I’m thrilled and honored that Wicked Sensual Care selected me as the inaugural Ambassador for this new line that nourishes not only our genitals but our experience of sexual pleasure.
I’ve enjoyed Wicked Sensual Care’s lubricants for years, and simply® timeless is a step beyond any lubricant that I’ve experienced because it’s made specifically for our age group. These lubes are slick and feel so good. They put the glide back in partnered and solo play and genital touch. Plus they can be used daily as a vaginal moisturizer.
Introducing simply® timeless lubes:
What do we want from a lubricant at our age? We want slickness and glide that enhance sexual touch and penetration. We want healthy, hydrating ingredients that protect our sexual health and don’t irritate our delicate skin. Wicked Sensual Care’s simply® timeless™ delivers all this and more.
There are so many confusing choices out there. How reassuring to know that simply® timeless™ takes care of our needs, contains only beneficial ingredients, and brings back the joy of friction.
Timeless Aqua Water-Based:
Smooth, hydrating, nourishing. Safe with all sex toys.
Timeless Hybrid + DHEA:
Combines water-based and silicone, slicker and longer-lasting than water-based alone. Safe with all sex toys. (Joan’s favorite.)
Timeless Aqua Jelle Water-Based:
Thicker formula, especially good for penises and for anal sex. Safe with all sex toys. (Shamus MacDuff’s favorite.)
Timeless Silicone:
Slickest and longest-lasting. Not for use with silicone sex toys.
Silke Schwarzkopf of 2nd Act TV interviews me about lubricants, choosing the best one, and why simply® timeless excels.
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Pulse Queen review: Yes, Your Rumbly Majesty!
It’s always an event when Hot Octopuss releases a new sex toy, and the Pulse Queen external vibrator is a winner! Rarely does a new sex toy charm me this thoroughly.
Why do I love the Pulse Queen?
First and foremost, I love it because it’s rumbly — deeply rumbly! — and it stays rumbly even on the highest of 9 speeds. It’s also super strong. I consider myself a power user, usually requiring the highest speed. But with the Pulse Queen, I don’t need to go past level 6 — it’s that powerful.
The experience is exquisite. The whole vulva reverberates with sensation, and I feel it deep in my body, not just surface level. The secret is the combination of rumble and oscillation, which is more intense than simple vibration. The technology is the same as the PulsePlate Technology™ in the Pulse penis toys which have delighted many a frenulum.
You can also enjoy seven patterns, some quite unusual. Sometimes I start with patterns for a tease, but when I’m ready to get serious about going to my happy place, steady pulsing gets me there. Your experience may vary, of course. Feel free to contribute your thoughts in the comments.
Ergonomic, oh yes
The Pulse Queen is also ergonomic for seniors in all the best ways:
- Shaped for targeted clitoral stimulation and more. The “bulb” extends out for pinpointing, circling, or edging onto the clitoris; clamping between your thighs for all-over vulva stimulation; or pairing with a dildo for vaginal + clitoral delights. Explore, experiment!
- Good for arthritic wrists. The handle is long, slim, and curved, making it easy to hold. Vibrations are only minimally transmitted though the handle.
- Large, Raised Controls are easy to see (no need for glasses) or feel even with eyes closed.
- Instruction booklet with large, clear diagrams illustrating everything you need to know — no words required.
Bonus points
- Completely waterproof.
- Made of body-safe silicone. Use with water-based lubricant only.
- Black satin storage pouch.
- Easy USB charging (see photo for insertion point for pin).
Not just for vulvas!
The Pulse Queen is marketed to vulva owners, but if you’re partnered with a penis owner, share the joy! As Shamus MacDuff discovered,
My partner told me of a new sex toy she wanted to try on herself. She said its name is Queen and it’s designed for vulvas so I assumed it would be for her pleasure alone. Was I ever wrong! After enjoying it on her own parts, she applied it to mine. First she ramped up the vibrations on my balls, then my shaft, and finally my frenulum. This produced pure ecstasy and a wonderful orgasm. The Queen works beautifully for penis owners too!
Purchase the Pulse Queen from Hot Octopuss — and take a look at their other fine products before you check out. Shamus MacDuff and I have been reviewing their exceptional vibrators for penises and vulvas for years. Read our reviews (keep scrolling and click “older posts,” because there are many). They’re a terrific company, too, focused on sexual pleasure and health for all bodies.
Why don’t I review sex toys more often?
I’ve been reviewing sex toys from senior perspective for more than 14 years, and I admit I’ve become a little jaded. These days, I turn down more offers of review products than I accept. Even when I request one, a review isn’t guaranteed. A new vibrator needs to offer an exceptional or novel experience, or I don’t want to spend your time and mine on a review. Know that if a product jumps all my hurdles and ends up with a rave review, my body, brain, and extensive experience have collaborated on that celebration! Enjoy!