Melt 2 from We-Vibe: Puff the Magic!
I have a new favorite sex toy, and its name is Melt 2, the new Pleasure Air Clitoral Stimulator from We-Vibe, sold by Betty’s Toy Box. Whether you’re already a connoisseur of “pleasure air” or “air puff” technology or wondering what it’s all about, I predict that the Melt 2 will thrill you. It does me!
How does it work?
First apply a good water-based lubricant. Hold the Melt 2 and press the opening over your clitoris so it surrounds your clitoral nub (glans clitoris). Turn it on with the “+” button and feel it deliver air pulses directly to your clitoris that feel like gentle sucking or nibbling. The sensation is tough to describe, but utter pleasure to experience.
Rev up to your choice of 12 intensity levels: the “+” button increases power and sensation; the “-” button lowers it. Explore the 6 patterns, controlled by the raised “<” and “>” on the left and right.
After your orgasm(s), power it off by holding the “-” button until it stops.
I can’t guarantee you easy orgasms from any product. What we need and how we need it is highly individual — see “How to Choose a Vibrator.” But I’ll say that from my experience and other reviewers, the intensity and technology of Melt 2 deliver strong, dependable, even fast results.
Full disclosure here: The lovely folks at Betty’s Toy Box sent me the Melt 2 in May when I was in extreme pain from April car crash injuries. I honestly didn’t know if my body was capable of feeling pleasure. Was I surprised when the Melt 2 delivered! I’m telling you this because it might have affected my evaluation of this joy-giving toy — or maybe the Melt 2 is just that good! Let me know what you think in the comments once you’ve tried it.
What if more than my clitoris wants stimulation?
If you enjoy vaginal penetration along with direct clitoral stimulation, you’ve probably found that many clitoral toys cover too much space, making it difficult to insert your penetrator of choice, whether it’s fingers, an invited penis, or a dildo. Both the original Melt and the Melt 2 are shaped for minimal disruption to vaginal access. In fact, the Melt 2 is marketed as a couple’s toy which can be used during intercourse. True, but let’s acknowledge that there are many other ways to involve a partner in your journey to orgasm, not just intercourse. The Melt 2 takes care of your clitoris while your partner can stimulate your other pleasure receptors.
No partner? No problem. Melt 2 is terrific solo.
How does it compare with the original Melt?
The original Melt (reviewed in 2019) is identical in shape, size, and intensity levels. The original does not have the 6 patterns or the Smart Silence feature. If you already own the original and you don’t care about the extra features, no need to upgrade. Betty’s Toy Box is selling both products at the same price, as of this writing, so if you don’t own either, I’d go for the new one.
What’s “Smart Silence”?
This feature stops the product from working unless it’s in contact with skin. You press the button to turn it on, and although the light flashes, nothing happens. Press it to your skin, and it starts. Take it away from your skin, it turns off. Some people find that handy (easy stop if you’re interrupted, or a way to tease your body). Others find it annoying. If you’re in the latter camp, you can turn off the Smart Silence feature by double-clicking the wavy button.
What else?
- Ergonomic, easy to hold, no vibrations to the wrist.
- Waterproof.
- Can be controlled remotely via an app.
- Made of body safe silicone – phthalate-free, latex-free, non-porous.
- Charges via USB with a magnetic connector.
- User manual is unusually user-friendly!
How lucky we are to live in a time when sex toy innovation makes it possible for you to find the perfect toys for your personal body needs and preferences. Though I would never say that any one sex toy is “best” for everybody — or every body — for me, as a 81-year-old sexual pleasure seeker, We-Vibe’s Melt 2 is as perfect as a sex toy can be!
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Joan’s injuries 2025
I know that my followers were surprised when I abruptly announced to my subscribers, “No April newsletter” with no explanation. My partner Mac Marshall and I were in a serious (and unavoidable) car crash on April 24, 2025. Mac’s injuries were thankfully minor, but I suffered three neck fractures and deeply bruised ribs and chest.
I was very frightened that the injuries — at age 81, with osteoporosis and a previous neck fracture — were too serious to overcome. But the good news I received yesterday: I’ll be able to make a full recovery!
I was sent home from the ER on 4.25 in a big, uncomfortable neck brace that allowed no neck motion and held me so tightly that I couldn’t even open my mouth enough to chew. I nicknamed it “the cage.” Fortunately Mac is a pro with a blender, so he’s been making me nutritious smoothies and soup purees.
On 5.2, after a week in the cage, I was able to get re-evaluated and, whew, given a smaller size neck collar which is much more comfortable (if “comfortable” is a word that can be used alongside “three neck fractures”). I’ll wear it for another month. Tonight, 5.3, I’ll try to eat solid food! Small steps!
I’m staying at Mac’s for now, and yes, I’m able to sleep — very well in fact — thanks to a reclining La-Z-Boy couch.
I plan to use this blog post as my primary communication personally and professionally, expanding and updating it as I can.
Please feel free to comment – I’d love to hear from you. No medical advice, please, I’m getting excellent care.
Update 1 – 5.5.25:
Something I didn’t include, but should have: the pain has been extreme (wailing, sobbing extreme) when I first stand up after the painkiller (Oxycodone) has worn off. The drug is a lifesaver, and I’m careful to take it only when I absolutely need to. I’m including this because it’s a large part of my reality. My ribs are healing so the pain is only in my neck now, rather than every breath as it was before.
Much of my body was a technicolor display of bruises, and those are healing, too. I’m very grateful that the injuries weren’t worse, and I’m motivated to put in the work to heal.
Your comments make me happy, thank you.
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Update 2 – 5.8.25:
Wow, thank you, Coaches’ Corner line dancers and California Sister Floral Design & Supply for these beautiful flowers! I can barely express the joy they bring me with their beauty and the sentiment from the dancers. I feel your love on every petal.
You can see from my smile and demeanor that I’m regaining my joie de vivre, feeling less wan and helpless. more capable and optimistic. Pain management is easier, and although it’s a long road ahead, I have pep in my step for getting there. I have professional commitments waiting for me, and fortunately my editors and clients are compassionate and stretching their deadlines to make it easier on me. I feel very lucky – both to be alive, and to be surrounded by compassionate people. Again, shout out to Mac who helps me every day, every hour.
Update 3 – 5.12.25:
Every day is easier. I was advised to try to walk 2,000 steps a day (I was used to 8,000-10,000/day, sometimes more), and as soon as I felt stable enough over the last week, I started trying to beat that by a little more every day. I love goals, in case you don’t know that about me. Yesterday was 5,500 steps! Whether or not you’re an exerciser, please know that movement may be hard at first, but once you get some momentum, it’s a pain reliever and stress reducer — good for your brain as well as your body. Whatever movement you’re capable of, my friends, please pursue it!
I have physical and mental energy spurts now that I didn’t before. I finally feel as though I’m working towards healing, instead of fighting an uphill battle against my injuries, if that makes sense. It will be a long road, but I’m on that road instead of seeing it in the distance.
As always, please feel free to comment. Many thanks for being on Team Joan!
Update 4 – 5.16.25:
Little progress markers mean so much: decreasing my pain meds; increasing my walking time, distance, and speed; pouring my coffee or smoothie into a mug on my own; being able to focus on listening to an extraordinary novel: The Emperor of Gladness by Ocean Vuong. I have work to do that is waiting for me patiently, and I hope my next report tells you that I’m able to get back to it.
I had a talk with one of my closest, dearest people who has been in my life since 1968. He told me about asking a group of elders, “What are you proudest of, but you don’t tell people because it would seem like bragging?” If you care to answer in the comments, I’d love to read it. Thank you for making this a community of kindness.
Stretching at Hidden Valley Park, Santa Rosa, CA
Update 5 – 5.27.25:
I’ve been making progress — more walking (my new record is 8,500 steps in one day), less pain, even a bit of work. In two days I have a phone appointment with my specialist who will evaluate the latest x-ray to see whether my neck fractures have healed enough to remove my 24/7 neck brace. I’ll check in after that appointment. Meanwhile, here’s my newest friend, a neighborhood cat who comes to meet me and get some petting.
pole dancing at Ragle Park
Update 6 – 5.29.25:
Oh, what a wonderful day! I had an appointment with my marvelous spine specialist who said my neck was stable and healed enough to remove the neck brace that had imprisoned me for 35 days, 24/7. The feeling of freedom!
I can’t straighten up yet (that will come, I’m assured), but oh, to be able to move more freely and do things I couldn’t do at all while I wore it — such as take a full shower and wash my hair!
I invite you to laugh at the rat’s nest that I call my hair in these photos immediately after removing the neck brace:
…and after the first shower and shampoo in 5 weeks:
Yay, clean hair!
Update 7 – 6.10.25:
Oh, joy! I had my first physical therapy appointment yesterday, with good news. Let me back up: Once I was able to remove the hard, confining neck brace, I was elated at my new freedom, yet I was unable to straighten up. My head still jutted forward, and my neck was at an angle instead of upright. I had been very worried and, frankly, frightened that I wouldn’t be able to correct my posture because I felt stuck in that position. Brian Swanson, my physical therapist — whom I like very much! — told me that yes, there might be “hindrances” to straightening up, but I would be able to improve as I gain mobility and strength. I have exercises to do and a plan of action.
When I asked when I could teach my line dance class again, Brian said he understood that this was important to my sense of well-being and feeling in charge of my progress (yes!), and I could return soon. I’ll need to modify my own movements, avoid speed and multiple turns, and take breaks, but that’s fine! I’m aiming for the end of this month!
This photo isn’t current, but I post it for my own inspiration:
Update 8 – 6.22.25:
It’s been almost two months now. Progress seemed so slow at first, but now it’s speeding up! I’m far from healed or independent, but I can do much more now. From little things like being able to chew my food (I “ate” through a straw for the first month when I was confined to the brace 24/7) and really enjoy eating to huge steps like meeting a very important work deadline (hurray for me — more about that in a few days!), adding movement personal training with the wonderful Christopher Cormier to my ongoing PT, and — today — walking almost two miles, including two hills, with just brief breaks to lean on my hiking poles or rest on a bench.
My posture — which has been scarily hunched over — is starting to improve noticeably. I have a long way to go, but I see a difference suddenly, and that motivates me.
None of this progress is happening automatically with time passing, please understand. Healing is a job. It takes work, goal-setting, determination, compliance with the PT exercises several times a day, pain management, telling myself, “Yes, I can!” when I think I can’t — and naps, lots of naps!
Sometimes, I’ll be candid with you, I cry because it’s so hard and/or I’m afraid. I don’t want to come across as Wonder Woman (well, maybe a little…) or sugar-coat what this journey is like. I also don’t want to be one of those people who overshare on social media, but many of you tell me that you find my words and actions inspiring, so I don’t want to hold back, either.
Again, thank you to Mac Marshall, my companion, confidant, chef, chauffeur, and so much more.
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To my readers who have been requesting consultations: thank you for your patience. I’m ready to start booking Zoom appointments in July and August. Email me. If we haven’t already connected, tell me the questions and concerns that you’d like to discuss with me.
Womanizer Enhance: for clitoral delights!
It’s only March, and I already know that the Womanizer Enhance Pleasure Air + Vibration Clit Stimulator will be on my “Best Sex Toys of 2025” list. It’s a dance party for the clitoris, combining “Pleasure Air” technology with strong, rumbly vibration! It’s a threesome, even when you’re pleasuring yourself solo.
Pleasure Air (the air puff pulsations that feel like gentle sucking that we love in all Womanizer products) has been a huge orgasm donor to clitorises of any age, and — though I’m just guessing here — especially our age. Many of us need powerful sensation, yet often we don’t want the pounding or grinding of strong vibrators that can leave our increasingly more delicate vulvas feeling ravaged. The Pleasure Air technology gives us the sensation we need, without even touching the clitoris directly.
But what if we do love vibrations, but around the clitoris instead of directly on it? We get that with the Enhance, too.
Here’s how it works
- Apply water-based lube to the working end of the Enhance.
- Position the “nozzle” over the nub of your clitoris and gently press the flat rim so that it stays in contact with your vulva.
- Press the controls to get the sensations you want.
You’re choosing among 10 Pleasure Air intensities, 10 vibration intensities, and 10 vibration patterns!
Even if you’re a savvy sex-toy connoisseur, you need to read the directions. Separate controls adjust the intensity of the air puff sensations and the vibrations independently, with another button for patterns.
The control buttons can be tricky the first few times until you get used to the placement and feel of each button. Then you can put away the instruction booklet and your reading glasses. Since the instructions are tiny, let me help you decode the controls:
Notice these control markings:
Large “+” and “-“
Press and hold the “+” button to turn on the Enhance. Once it’s on, pressing these buttons quickly controls the intensity of the Pleasure Air sensations. Press and hold the “-” button to turn off the Enhance.
Side buttons
The smaller side buttons with wavy lines control the vibrations. Press the double wave to increase and the single wave to decrease vibration intensity.
Pattern button
The small button with little dots that is separated from the others controls the vibration patterns. Cycle through them by pressing quickly. Press and hold to return to steady vibration.
Pros
The Enhance is well designed for function and beauty. It’s made of body-safe silicone and uses a magnetic charger. It’s waterproof for easy cleaning and for fun in the shower.
Cons
Because of the complexity of the controls, I don’t think I’d recommend the Enhance for first-timers or folks used to simple vibrators. Let me know if you disagree.
Thank you, Betty’s Toy Box, for sending me the Womanizer Enhance in return for an honest review. Get 10% off the price of the Womanizer Enhance or any other product from Betty’s Toy Box with coupon code JOAN10
Sexy New Year’s Resolutions 2025
Do you want to make some changes in your sex life?
These Sexy New Year’s Resolutions will make a big difference, and they’re easy and fun to put into action. I first compiled these tips in 2018, now updating in 2025. Some come from my Senior Planet Ask Joan columns, others from my newsletter. What would you add or change? Please comment!
Redefine Sex. What brings us sexual pleasure and possibility is different at our age. That’s a feature, not a defect! Broaden your definition of sex to whatever activities arouse you and bring you sexual pleasure, partnered or solo. Embracing a new definition of sex expands your options for pleasure. Read this account of one reader’s experience.
Track the Tingle. For quicker, easier, and more satisfying arousal, figure out what time of day you feel most sexually responsive. When you feel the “tingle” – that quiver of erotic possibility – set aside time to indulge yourself sexually or schedule that time on your next free day.
Use Lubricant. A lubricant that keeps you moist and slick will increase comfort and intensify your pleasure. Use lube liberally both solo and with a partner, and reapply frequently. For health and pleasure, choose Wicked Sensual Care simply® timeless, created for our age group.
Just Do It. This is for you if you enjoy sex when you do it, but you rarely feel desire in advance. You’re experiencing “responsive desire”: your desire follows physiological arousal and pleasure instead of preceding it. So open yourself to engaging with your pleasure, and your desire will kick in.
Schedule Weekly Orgasms. If we waited until sex happened spontaneously, we might never have another orgasm. Schedule sex at least weekly, partnered or solo. The sexy anticipation –mental foreplay! — makes it even hotter when it happens.
Enjoy Sex Toys. Our hormonally challenged bodies may need extra help to reach orgasm. A well-chosen, well-placed vibrator can be the difference between orgasm and no orgasm. Start with “Vibrators for Seniors – especially for first-timers,” then read the many sex toy reviews in this blog to help you choose. Enjoy my “Sex Toys for Seniors” webinar.
Self-Pleasure Frequently. Solo sex is real sex, and it’s good for your general health, your sexual health and your sense of well-being. Give yourself solo orgasms, whether you’re in a relationship or not. You’re celebrating your body’s ability to give you exquisite pleasure.
Exercise Before Sex. Increasing your blood flow with physical activity isn’t only good for the heart and muscles — it’s also good for sexual function and pleasure. One of the best things we can do to speed up arousal and orgasm is regular exercise, especially before sex.
Sex Before Food. Eating before sex sends the blood flow to your digestive system instead of your genitals. Have sex first, then eat. Sexual arousal will be easier, orgasms will be more reliable, and you will relish that meal afterward.
Use Your Words. Learning to talk about sex is the key to getting what you want. A long-term partner is likely to continue doing what used to work, even if it doesn’t work for you now, unless you redirect the action. A new partner wants to know how to please you. Speak up.
Have Sex More Often. Difficulty with arousal and orgasm is a good reason to have more sex, not less. The penis and the clitoris require blood flow for engorgement. The more you engage in stimulation – partnered or solo — the more easily the blood flows to the genitals.
Use Safer Sex. If you’re sexual with new partners, use barrier protection. Many people with sexually transmitted infections (STIs) either don’t know or don’t tell. Use barrier protection (condoms for intercourse and fellatio, dental dams for cunnilingus). Please view my free webinar, Safer Sex for Seniors with Joan Price.
Enlist Help. If you’re having sexual problems in your relationship, see a sex therapist (find one in your location) or a sex-savvy counselor. Therapy will help you identify the underlying issues, teach you how to communicate more effectively, and give you new strategies.
Talk to Your Doctor. Difficulty with arousal, erections, orgasm, or pain requires medical attention. Practice this “medical mantra” for help bringing up the subject with your doctor. If your doctor is dismissive or unable to help, ask for a referral to someone who is more knowledgeable about your concern and more accepting of you as a sexual being.
Which of these are you already doing? Which ones will you put into action this year? Leave your thoughts and ideas in the comments below.