I recommend sex educator Corey Silverberg’s “Lubricants That Changed the World: Reviews and Recommendations of Personal Lubricants for Sex,” an updated look at a selection of modern lubricants formulated specifically for sex play.

As we age, the right lubricant is the difference between pain and pleasure for both partner sex and solo sex. These differ widely by feel (how much slickness, whether it feels natural, for example) and duration (how well it lasts before getting dry or tacky), so it’s good to start with information like Corey’s.

Your neighborhood drugstore offers just a few of the dozens of brands available, so don’t limit yourself. If there’s a woman-friendly sex shop near you, plan to hang out and, one at a time, rub a drop of a few different lubes on your hand (no, no fair to try take the tester bottle to the bathroom with you) and see what you like. If taste is important, you can, uh, lick your hand.

If you’re not sure what you’d like and there’s no convenient place to find out, try buying small samples of a few different types or a sample pack, available from many online sex shops such as Good Vibrations. Enjoy!


  1. Karin Wiburg on March 20, 2020 at 4:52 pm

    i use a wonderful product from Good Clean Love called almost naked. No chemicals and it absorbs beautifully.
    I also use a product called FLO which also restores the vulva and vagina. Around 25 a month from Susan Britton.

  2. Jerome on March 12, 2020 at 9:49 am

    Where does KY Jelly fit into the spectrum of recommended products?

  3. Ron on December 21, 2010 at 7:40 am

    Best lubricant I've found is jojoba oil. Last a long time. Also a great massage oil that doesn't clog pores.

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